So, pretty much as the title suggests. We have been together over a year, we don't officially live together, but he stays over about 5 nights a week, my dd loves him to bits. Things aren't perfect, we bicker, but I'd say we are pretty secure in our relationship. (only reason we haven't officially moved in together is that he doesn't want to let his house mate down with the rent, and we are really good friends with her and we both like having our own space)
So where's the problem? I'm not sure I want to get married...
He had always said he couldn't see himself getting married, and I've never been overly fussed. (Like the idea of a pretty white dress, but that's about it. Hate being the centre of attention and couldn't be bothered with the hassle that would come with it - Family politics, etc)
But now he's talking about us getting married, and possibly moving into a new home together. (We both live in flats, I have a 2 bed that I share with dd and I know he would like us to have a child together at some point, although he has a really good relationship with my dd loves spending time with her and they often have days where they go to the beach or whatever just the 2 of them, she doesn't call him dad) so we have been talking about looking at finding a house together in the later part of 2013.
I don't want to say no to him and break his heart, but I also don't want to say yes, knowing it's something I'm sold on doing. (A lot of my close family, aunties, uncles, cousins, parents have gone through divorces and it's rubbish to see and go through that both as a child and an adult...)
I feel like a bit stuck between a rock and a hard place so I can't move in either direction, and I'm quite happy where I am...