Some Perspective Please

[IfHappyLittleBluebirdsFly]

Not sure what to do next. I'm married. Object of office flirtation is also. Have never felt such overwhelming lust in all my life.

OOOF is a committed church goer who doesn't drink, abhors swearing and is basically an all-round gentleman. Except..... he flirts back outrageously with a twinkle in his eye.

Anyhow...office partay and I get absolutely slaughtered and declare that if we weren't married to others, I would want to "fuck him senseless". I have absolutely no idea what he said in response.

Get into office on Monday and the air is awkward to say the least. How do I deal with this and not let it ruin our (previously strong) friendship? Would really appreciate your advice.

To be honest, if this is how you have been feeling about him, then cooling the friendship is probably the best thing to happen.

You are married, and a "strong friendship" with a man who you are lusting after is not a good idea really, is it??

Be grateful he was too much of a gentleman to respond - I'd probably say nothing (you can pretend you were to drunk to remember) and distance yourself - if you mention it you may be opening up a whole can of worms - what if he say's he fancies you too?

I know you are both absolutely right, but we just get on SO well and are part of a relatively small team (4 people), that any change in how we talk to each other would be noticed and questions asked. I want things to go back to 'normal' (channels inner 15 year old)

Ok, lets look at this another way. If there are only 4 of you in this team, and the two of you are permanently flirting and behaving like a pair of teenagers, your colleagues are probably also relieved that it has come to a stop.

Seriously, get on with work, stop the fluttering of eyelashes and twinkling of eyes, and dont risk your marriage or your work reputation.

I second other posters. Distance yourself, remember who you are married to and who you work for, and let some normality and professionalism return to the workplace. Flirting and banter can be fun and a way to get away from the tedium of everyday life, but look where it has gotten you and how you are feeling. Don't get carried away.

Thanks ladies, appreciate the bucket of cold water! And, to be fair, have often felt that we were making others feel uncomfortable.