bloody fuming

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Me and DP have some trust issues but we're finally working through them.

I also have self-esteem issues.

Anyway tonight he got drunk and started going on about how i dont trust him etc and he said something aling the lines of "if i wanted to shag somebody else i could, i could go out tomorrow and get a shag no problem" i said "oh yeah? Had offers have ya?" and he replied with "a couple, yeah"

So i said "off fucking who?" and he started repeating himself that he could go out and pull anyone he likes. So i ask again "who's been offering my boyfriend fucking sex???" then he said "nobody, i didnt mean that, i swear on the babys life nobody has offered me sex"

Theres this girl he made friends with while we where "on a break" he told me all about her, said she knew me and never hid anything, when she see's us she speaks to us both. But i KNOW its her, she just looks guilty as fuck i think, i feel like having words with her and saying "why where you trying to fuck my boyfriend??"

Im just fucking raging. He's gone to bed still swearing that nobody has come on to him.

Think you both need to grow up and have an adult conversation

This one is best left, I think.

I mean let it lie, not ltb.

He says "i could go and pull somebody else, but i never would because i love you and dont want anybody else but it hurts that you dont trust me"

Ok i get it, but to tell me he's had a "couple of offers" is just fucking ridiculous. He's just text me from upstairs in bed saying "i love you forever, im not going anywhere"

Who let you two gobshites have a baby?

Oh, and PS men who swear on their children's lives are always lying.

Don't have a go at her. If you were 'on a break' then she did nothing wrong. He wasn't your boyfriend at the time and she was free to do anything with him and him her.

If he is leading her on while you are now back together your main issue is him not her. You don't know that she has done a single thing to get his attention since you got back together.

What SleighBells said. It's like Jeremy Bloody Kyle, isn't it?

On a break?

Is he called Ross?

This sounds like the arguments my 13 year old self had with my 14 year old boyfriends. The pair of you need to grow up.

Seriously though, calm down & try and talk to him sensibly and calmly at a time when you are both sober & rational.

some very odd threads on here tonight....do you drive a honda OP?

The harsh reality is, random, that the world is full of other people our DPs could go off & shag - we just have to trust that they won't, & it sounds like your DP was trying to say something like that ( with a 'you're lucky I'm not looking around - cos I could' spin on it). And now he's trying to build bridges. Go & have a cuddle and make your peace.

Lol i know that was meant as an insult but "pair of gobshites" made me laugh, especially when i saw who posted it. Pot, kettle and black sprung to mind

I will speak to him tomorrow when he's sober.

i do see what he's saying but come on, i could go and shag somebody tomorrow but i dont broadcast it! I just found it insensitive

This has so left the road of "normal" and made a left turn

I'm sorry but I can't see what your DP has done wrong here, I think you're majorly overreacting

MayTheOdds - i just thought it was an insensitive thing to say

You shouldn't have asked the question if you didn't want to hear the answer.

I'm guessing he thought that by saying he has the oppertunity but doesn't act on it it would reassure you more than if he was only faithfully because the chance hadn't come up

I feel like a right tit now ive calmed down.

Yes he was trying to be reassuring, and maybe i did overreact (and shouldnt have asked)

And you're actually old enough to have had a baby? Words fail.