My toddler has made an alarming announcement

[OhEmGee25]

And I feel sick. She is 2.6 and my whole world. Her dad left us when she was 2 weeks and he honestly (not biasedly) does not make an effort: went away for both her birthdays, last Xmas and will be this Xmas too. It's been a month since he saw her as he's been "too busy". He's never had her overnight as he says he doesn't have the space. Sorry for that ramble but didn't want to drip feed...so it's been 4/5 weeks since he saw her and whilst playing Lego with me and my dp (who she idolises, lives with us) she said word for word "no me see daddy no more, he hit my elbow, me cry". Shocked to our cores, we quizzed dd on this without trying to probe too much but she's said it another two times today. I don't know what prompted it but I've never heard her say the word "hit" before. Feel ill with it.

They wouldn't have "asked" her - whether she should contact SS is a matter for OP depending on whether she has genuine abuse convene.

OhEmGee - honestly, they all come out with that sort of thing. Mummy pushed me over - no Mummy was standing still when you ran into her and fell on your Bum. Mummy tripped me over - no once again Mummy was standing still, perfectly still, when you fell over 3 ft away. Daddy hit me - no, you hit Daddy when you fell into him.... and on it goes. Mummy beats me - yes, sometimes when you are racing up the stairs not with a stick as you make it sound

They are the masters of half truths that they believe.

I really wouldn't worry unless you have a real reason to think he's likely to have hurt her in anyway.

I would, however, only allow him to visit when you are there - he's not seeing her often enough for her to be comfortable being 'left' with him.

I agree with chipping...

There is also the possibility she is telling the truth. The reality is that you will probably never know whether it did or did not happen but if you have ANY doubts over the welfare of your daughter you should consider her not visiting dad again just for the moment. I think honesty and openness is the best policy with Ex but your priority is DDs welfare

The comment wouldn't worry or shock me. Kids say the strangest things
we were on holiday this year with dbro and his wife. Dd announced one day that 'uncle was so funny in the pool yesterday when he was being racist'. Turned out she thought it meant 'being daft'.

You should have seent he looks.

I would say that you need to tackle the being upset when she goes. This is probably down to him not seeing her much and not regularly.

she could also be picking up on your feelings toward him.