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Feeling guilty

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ohcluttergotme · 15/12/2012 14:07

Feeling a bit guilty and just want to post on here to see if people think I should?
Had my works Christmas Night out last night which was very good fun & top management supplied over 20 bottles of champagne so very boozy!
Was meant to be going to very good friends for girls Christmas Night in but have just cancelled as I am so hungover & sick as a dog.
I know my friend isn't happy but I just want to relax & recover & also not be hungover mummy to my children again tomorrow! Also have big meeting at my work on Monday that I will be leading so don't want to be feeling fragile by too much alcohol.
I just feel so guilty & a crap friend ??

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Lueji · 15/12/2012 14:17

If she is a good friend she'll understand.

tribpot · 15/12/2012 14:26

Well, yes - I think you should feel a bit guilty. Was it just going to be you and her tonight? Can't you go but not drink or only have one or two?

I think there was an element of bad planning involved as well - two nights out on the lash in a row? Works Xmas do you could really have predicted how it was going to go as well.

I would be thinking of ways you can make this up to your friend. It's not the end of the world, obviously, but you are (probably?) old enough to have planned better!

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ohcluttergotme · 15/12/2012 14:34

There are 3 other girls going to so the night will still be going ahead. Yep agree really bad planning, should have known that the works night had the potential to be a late one. There was also another couple of girls asked who have called off too but think they let he know earlier so she's not as bothered by them as she is as me not going

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tribpot · 15/12/2012 14:40

Well it sounds a bit shit for her. She's planned this nice evening for everyone but instead of looking forward to it and planning accordingly, people seem to have gone out and got trolleyed and are now crying off. (I'm sure that's how she feels, even if there are a variety of reasons why people can't make it). She's also potentially got way too much food in if 3 of you have cancelled today.

There's not much you can do today except let her know you feel awful for letting her down, but I think a bit of buttering her up is in order in the week.

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