DH came home last night from an evening drinking with friends, which he doesn't do too often, I picked him up from the pub around midnight, he was a bit drunk but not unreasonably so. Our DS is home from uni, he is in second year, and had some friends around last night. DH stopped in to talk to them for a while, I went up to bed. An hour or so later he came up to be and told me that they'd been talking about how attractive I was (?! not a stealth brag, I'm fine for my age and a few lbs overweight but that's not the point) and said that they had 'rated' the mothers and there was only one who was more attractive than me. Now I am sure that this discussion was entirely prompted by DH, NOT the kids. I told him immediately that I didn't want to hear about that and didn't appreciate that sort of talking.
I am cringing as I write this but not sure whether I should brush it under the carpet, just a bit of drunken banter, or address it. He thinks that I should appreciate the fact that he still finds me attractive and I'm a bit conflicted (being a vain woman) as I do want to be found attractive but don't appreciate being talked about, I'm sure they do this at the pub and I could excuse it (seeing as I know nothing about the pub banter) but bringing DS into it just isn't on.... yikes.
There have been times when he has made it clear that I haven't measured up, looks-wise, and he is very cold to me. BTW he is not good-looking at all.
DS is a lovely caring boy who sees his dad as a bit of a harmless (for the most part) PITA, he has a lovely GF and I've never seen him be anything less than totally respectful to her. Think he has the sense to ignore his dad.
Just wanted to write it down, not easy but I am wondering... no, I'm sure, that this is another sign of him being an emotional abuser... and not sure just how to go about extracting myself from this relationship after so many years.