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When should I say "Yes" to go for a date?

11 replies

datemenow · 14/12/2012 12:09

I am registered on a mobile dating app and there is a guy, whom I was chatting to a few hours. Now he is asking me to meet for coffee. Should I say yes and just go? Or should I keep on chatting to him to know him better before I meet him?

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SPsFanjoIsSantasLittleHoHoHo · 14/12/2012 12:12

No. Not after a few hours. He may be a murderer.

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 14/12/2012 12:13

Always helpful SP Grin

But he could well be a murderer.

He could also be really nice.

I'd say keep on chatting for a while.

SoHHKB · 14/12/2012 12:14

IME it's worth chatting to someone a couple of times before making the effort to meet, if only to check their reliability - i.e. are online when they say they will be, although this is no guarantee of anything in RL!
IMO it is good to meet quickly though to prevent either of you getting too carried away into a potentially unsuitable online 'relationship' that never gets anywhere in RL (if that is what you're looking for)
Take care to meet somewhere public and make sure a friend knows your plans for the evening - good luck Smile

Wallison · 14/12/2012 12:14

He's not going to murder the OP in Costa though, is he. Do it!

According to friends who know much more about this sort of thing than I do, the sooner you meet them the better - that way you haven't spent/wasted loads of time on someone that you end up not fancying - and you can't know if you fancy someone until you've met them.

WinklyVersusTheZombies · 14/12/2012 12:14

You won't really get to know him until you meet him anyway, I say go.

issey6cats · 14/12/2012 12:15

sometimes meeting quickly is a good idea meet him for a coffee in town a public place where there are lots of people around and if you dont like him all you have wasted is half an hour drinking coffee, sometimes talking to someone for a long time especially as you dont know what he looks like can mean you investing a lot of time and energy and building up a picture in your head of someone and when you meet its dissapointing

SPsFanjoIsSantasLittleHoHoHo · 14/12/2012 12:16

If your going to go tell somewhere you are going, who with and where just incase.

I don't trust men. Not after some dates I've been on!

SPsFanjoIsSantasLittleHoHoHo · 14/12/2012 12:17

You are** apologises for that

WinklyVersusTheZombies · 14/12/2012 12:18

Go to Starbucks and have the chocolate and hazelnut muffin, even if he's a boring git you won't have wasted the trip.

Wallison · 14/12/2012 12:20

Going to Starbucks is also good if you're interested in seeing if he passes the 'Socialist Worker' test.

TrillsCarolsOutOfTune · 14/12/2012 12:29

Agree with chatting to hi at least once more at a prearranged time to see if he is good at turning up when he says he will - you don't want to go out somewhere and have him not turn up.

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