Libo Conflict

[YellowTulips]

My DH and I are struggling with this. We seem to have very different "cycles" for when, put bluntly we want to "get it on".

When we do, the sex is great - so that is not an issue.

Has anyone got any advice on how how we can bring issues into line as it were?

So sorry, I actually meant Libido (mis-type) - sorry for anyone called to the thread wondering what a libo was ;-)

Sometimes have this problem too! Can't say we have found an answer that always works, but we sometimes have 'scheduled' sex if we have been missing each others peaks for a while. That, and reassuring each other that it is a synchronization issue not a 'don't fancy you any more' issue.

Some people recommend trying to stimulate your own interest at a time that doesn't come naturall eg by reading erotic fiction, or whatever suits you, but that never really works for me. Have you tried that?

You could try the 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' technique. i.e. agree to hold off any sexual contact for a period of time. Remain affectionate, reassure each other of your love, but abstain in order to heighten desire. I don't believe there is such a thing as a 'cycle' btw..