He cheated, he changed overnight almost, yet I'm still me

[ohthehumanity]

Hello everyone! My first thread although I've posted my 2 cents on others. Husband had EA with work colleague, lied to me giving alibis of other work colleagues he was with when he was actually with OW. We split for a few days, he changed almost overnight, he went to counselling solo, we went together once but I felt it was a waste of time, and now decides to socialise with me hence date nights - ooh lucky me! We went on a few, however after a while I told to stuff his date nights as he spent many nights in the company of OW it seemed to me like I'm second prize. Recently he changed jobs and we moved to another part of the UK. A better job and if he gets futher promotion, then the b*gger can afford to divorce me. He doesn't want to split. Yet even now (2 years or so) I feel like I'm runner-up - he knows how much he's messed up the r-ship, FUBAR actually. It's a cliche but he's only in my life 'cos our DD needs a father too. Can anyone help?!? He wants to make it work yet I feel it's pointless....

If you've given it two years and still feel it's pointless then don't waste any more time. It's not enough for one person to 'want to make it work' if the other isn't convinced... when love is replaced by contempt and resentment, the whole thing is dead in the water.

DD will only ever have one father whether he lives in the same house or not. You, on the other hand, could spend what's rest of your life with a better partner or no partner. He may not want to split but you always have a choice.