What advice would you give/ or have given yourself about your relationship.... and would it have been right?

[AlphaBeta2012]

Sounds random but this morning I was confidently giving out advice to colleague about not moving their relationship on to quickly, i.e. getting to know each other really well before living together/ engaged etc!
Anyway another colleague then reminded me that I moved in with DH 2 months into our relationship, engaged 9mths and married at 18mths. Now 5 years later with a DC and another on the way we couldn't be a happier couple! So could I really give out that opinion! (she was right of course!
And I thought yep I would have given the same advice to myself at the beginning of my relationship, I would have told myself I was rushing, etc, etc especially as I'd only just come out of a horrendous relationship, but in my mind I knew without a shodow of a doubt that my DH was the one for me, and I'm glad I ignored all the sensible people telling me to take it slowly!
What would you have told yourself as an outsider looking back or what would you tell yourself now???

I would tell myself not to ignore the fact that I was with a man who finds it very hard to express his feelings, and to make sure we sat down and had plenty of chats about the important stuff in the first couple of years of our relationship. It would have saved lots of heartache and two breakups! We're married now.

To trust and listen to and respect my emotional reactions to things about the person or relationship I am not happy with, am angry about, or simply don't like.

That companionship isn[t enough. DH and I have always got a.long well but there has never been a sense of deep love and thunderbolts and lightening. 15 years on we are separating as I want more.

Leave the bastard!

Looking happy isn't the same as being happy, being in a relationship straight after a break up is never a good idea and don't move in three weeks later. All what I would have said to my 19 year old self.

I forgot to answer part 2 of the question (the easy bit) 'YES!!'

Looking happy isn't the same as being happy, being in a relationship straight after a break up is never a good idea and don't move in three weeks later. All what I would have said to my 19 year old self.

Bloody phone double posting

talk is cheap - look at what he does and how he treats you rather than just what he is saying

Learn to recognise emotional insecurity and emotionally abusive behaviour. If they won't at least try to address it, they will never change.

Recognise that going through all your personal stuff, phone and PC is unacceptable behaviour.

Recognise when there are one set of rules for you, and one for her.

Recognise that when you've done your best, but this is still not good enough - this is unacceptable and ungrateful behaviour.

Recognise that you do not get constant criticism from someone who is supposed to love you.

Don't give up hobbies, friends and family for her.

Many, many more...