On Thursday I was made redundant from my job of twenty seven years. I returned home in a daze to give my wife the news. When I arrived home she seemed more annoyed that I had turned up unexpectedly and she told me that she was meeting a friend for lunch and could not cancel it. I knew from her behaviour that something was not quite right. When she left the house I noticed she had left her phone so I ran after her as I knew she would need it. When I got to the corner of the street she was on another phone that I did not recognise. I confronted her and asked what was going on and to show me the phone. She refused and told me to leave her alone. I continued to walk down the street with her and then she dropped a bombshell that she had met someone else and she loved him and he loved her in return and that they were going to start a new life together. I asked her whon he was , where they had met and how long the relationship had ben going on for but all she would say was that he was a lawyer for a international bank. We have two children ds 17 and dd 10. I begged her to reconsider for their sakes and she said they were old enough now and didn't need me. I asked her to return to the house to talk, but she refused and said nothing was going to stop her from meeting him. The police eventually came and held me while she went off to meet her lover. I was totally devastated and suicidal. I had lost my job, wife, children and home all in a few hours. I wanted to end it all, but also wanted to kill him. I searched every bar and restaurant, but could not find them. I eventually came home and sat in a daze. My wife returned home very upset, but refused to talk to me. A few days later she told me the truth. She had never met this man before, she had only been contacting him through the internet and that had been there first meeting. When she met him it was obvious he was not what he seemed to be but she felt it had gone to far and she could not back out. She had sex with him but he was aggresive and left when it was over. Afterwards he contactede her by text and was abusive and told her he had hiden a camera in the room and that she would soon be all over the internet. He sent further abusive and threatening text and the eventually one with a link to a web site. My wife was devistated and scared. All i wanted to do was hold her and tell her I still loved her but she made it clear that she still would not have me back. I went with her to the police station to make a formal complaint . I have seen a transcript of all the email exchanges and i feel sick. I have looked this excuse for a man up on face book and he is an ugly old man . I have begged my wife to try and put this behind her but she refuses. She has told every one we know that we have seperated but not why and I am not allowed to tell them. I am now undre sadation from the doctor and today I have just recived news that my father has died. I do not see any way forward. I want my life back.Is she doing this because she is ashamed...?