been with dh 20 odd years, 1 child. Had an affair 17 years ago but didn't tell DH till 2 years ago. Not surprisingly his world was rocked. It nearly broke us, and it's been a very hard 2 years which I thought we were coming out of. But it seems that when I don't sleep with DH he gets angrier and angrier with me. He woke me up shouting "this relationship is shit" this morning and then stormed off to work, saying sorry, but still raging. I think I've started the peri-menopause - I'm a hormonal disaster area and having night sweats and a very heavy period every 3 weeks for 7-12 days so bleeding more often than not. I've completely gone off sex, though I love DH with every fibre of me. I'm exhausted by my stupidity 17 years ago when I was very young, egotistical and foolish. I didn't tell him because I thought it would break us then, and I had realised how stupid I'd been. I love him. He loves me. But he hates me too and I don't know what to do about the sex.... I wish I wanted to jump on him. I don't. I just want to be on my own in the evenings....I'm knackered. I still find him attractive, I just don't want to have sex.... Anyone out there who could give me some advice?