I dont understand men, will I ever?

[GemsAngels]

Went out this weekend not looking, as Iv been told to stop looking, then I actually start chatting to a guy I fancy, this never ever ever happens. We were chatting about an hour he bought me a drink and then all of a sudden his friends came over he had to leave as their cab was booked. He left. Ten minutes later he returned alone asked for my number as he said he would kick himself otherwise. Of course I said yes and exchanged numbers. This was friday and not heard a dicky bird since am I being silly in thinking he has been kidnapped by aliens or dropped his phone down the drain, this is why he hasnt contacted me? He was so lovely and so keen. I thought it was too good to be true. I just dont understand it. I have no faith in these men. I know it may sound silly to most but I have been on a year of dating hell and actually posted days ago saying I never meet anyone I fancy. Thats why Im disappointed really. Now Im waffling on but Im feeling sorry for myself just lately :(

Well I havent dated for decades but isnt it a bit soon to worry ?

You exchanged numbers. Have you contacted him?

Either way it hasn't even been 2 days yet. I wouldn't worry.

Really? Oh ok :) Iv text him today but no reply. I know I seem panicky but I dont get this kinda luck, Im thinking it was too good to be true :(

It's strange he would go back specially to ask if he wasn't interested. He might still call, and I hope he does. But never be too keen.

Thanks AuntieFlaubert, I hope so too :) I know this is what I dont understand.

No don't text again. It's too soon he doesn't want to appear too keen. I felt the same when single you just can't read them can you?
Maybe he was not single?

No I have no clue what their really thinking. I wont text again now. Maybe he wasnt single but he seemed so nice, and if he wasnt single why come back for my number.

Gems I looked at your profile. You are lovely and I'm not surprised he was interested! But you have so much going on in your life at the moment that I wouldn't be desperate for a man. You still have plenty of time to have the right one walk into your life.

Aww thankyou AuntieFlaubert :) I honesty came to that decision that Im not looking and I honestly wasnt, he chatted to me first and he was so different from the drunken sleezes I usually attract. Its so hard being single again in your 30's. I dont want to be desperate but I feel myself panicking as I dont seem to ever meet anyone and I guess seeing couples everywhere.

He is probably waiting until a night when he is free to take you out and spoil you! I know one of my friends never texts unless she is free that night or the next!

Yeah maybe :) well Im thinking if he doesnt text today or tomorrow he isnt interested as Iv text and if that was me I would reply either way.

Gems- it is the weekend and men are different to us. The guy I saw recently didn't text sometimes for 4 days and he then texted asking if I'm ok as he hasn't heard from me!

Gems, he may still contact. Give it a few more days. You had one guy interested- there will be more. Enjoy your life and it will flow in time.

Thanks WitchCrafter :) Really? So him not texting me back today, still he could text? I will give it a few more days then, I hate not knowing. Seriously I dont ever ever feel attracted to the guys I attract so to me this is the first time Iv felt a little excited, in a whole year of dating and 2 years of being single. Apart from the first guy I met after my exh left, I was so gullible then though.

Please don't wait or be disappointed if he doesn't and if he does don't let him know how keen you are.

He doesnt want to appear too keen you will probably hear from him on monday

Aw ok thankyou :) I will play it cool and try not to wait :) its hard though isnt it?

My advice would be,to just hang in there & wait to see what happens,don't text or call him. Like ledkr hinted, up thread,he may be already taken,& trying to play away. With your good looks ,you should have no problem attracting men, If they always seem to be drunks, a change of venue might be a good idea. Best wishes for the days to come.

Aw thankyou flatbellyfella :) I will hold back not getting my hopes up just wondered why he came back, but yeah he could be unavailable. A change of scene is difficult when your out drinking with friends. Thanks for your advice :)

Just to second that. You need to be going somewhere different for a change.

Not sure where though. Any ideas? :)

Perhaps something around the hospital? They must have staff social activities.

If you think of "men" as a homogeneous mass who are all the same as each other and are different to "women" (who are also all the same as each other) then no, you will never "understand men".

Well said Trills,

Yeah I will have to ask at the hospital :)
Im not sure I understand Trills

Think trills means that there are as many different ways of being a man as there are men in the world. Once you get one, there are just all of the others to figure out .