My mother just my pregnancy is not important, any monkey can get pregnant and that she hopes I would miscarry.

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This was about half an hour ago....I can't stop crying and walking around the house lost. Please help me.

WTF? I've heard some poisonous things but that takes the biscuit. That is way beyond the realms of normal.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. That's wonderful news.

You mother obviously can't bear for you to be happy; for your life to take a different course from hers; for you to make different (eg parenting) choices from hers. In short, in her mind, you don't really exist as a separate person. I agree with the others who say you need to step away from this woman.

Thank you so much ladies I'm so sorryto hear your stories also. I feel so confused and hurt and feel v.v.guilty that this pg news has been so negative as with dd it was such a joyous occasion.

Feel like I've let everyone down - mother, dd everyone.

"Feel like I've let everyone down - mother, dd everyone"

Now why would you think that?. You have absolutely no reason to think that way particularly with regards to your mother. Her words were designed by her to hurt you.

Your DD loves you and needs you. You have NOT let your DD down.

Fear, obligation and guilt (FOG) are often feelings expressed by those children now adults where their parents are toxic.

You are bringing a new life into the world; that is itself to be celebrated. It is not your fault that your mother has turned into some toxic creature, you did not make her that way. You really did not.

Your mother has let you down abjectly and has likely and always put her own needs before that of anyone else.

I agree, you are not the one who is letting anybody down, don't blame yourself.

You're not letting anyone down! You sound absolutely lovely, you supported your mother in the past - you sound like a wonderful daughter, sister and mother.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. And your Dd does NOT sound spoilt, she sounds completely normal, inquisitive and bright!

It's horrible you are having to deal with such noxious cruelty from someone who is supposed to love and cherish you. Please distance yourself from your mother, tell her she has hurt you too much and you cannot see her right now.

Take care of yourself.

Oh loveyou was shocked to see it was you writing this after your incredibly happy post on the other thread. She'd said she wasn't going to have your Lo anymore hadn't she. So sorry. We don't speak to my f-i-l anymore because of how bullying and abusive he was to us, but he would never have said that. So so sorry. Don't know how possible it would be but I would remove myself from her for a while atleast. So sorry for you.

Thank you again atilla you're right, maybe its the new pg hormones making me feel stupidly guilty....didnt want to earlier but she also mentioned suicide, hence possibly why I feel guilty. My brother has actually assaulted my mother before and my sister has threatened her. I have never so much as swore at her before yet my being such a horrible person is brining her to think about suicide. Why the fuck would she say that?? Just to make me upset??

oovoo and waiting thank you so much, I really appreciate the support. Have spent most of the evening crying and feeling guilty that the reaction to this pg was so horrendous compared to dd's....i wish I never told her now.

Thank you i'mnotcute