Why do so many intelligent fight over men who aren't worth it?

[superstarheartbreaker]

Don't know if this should be in AIBU but so many of my mates have fallen out over men who just aren't into any of them. AIBU to think that feminism has got us nowhere and that women are generally scared of being single so will fight over scarce resources?

I shall read this with interest, as I'm quite sure some women see a man, any man, as better than no man (And to balance it, I also know some men who cannt bear to be with out a bit of candy on their arm, it's as if they feel undressed without a bit of totty hanging off them).

Most people, either gender, can manage perfectly well, alone, if the situation requires it though.

Fall out over men? How old are your mates? 13?

Whichever sex you are, there's no shortage of whatever gender you're into and IMO this is a wind up AIBU thread.

Why is feminism coming in for a bashing?

If more women aligned themselves with feminism they might be way more likely to leave the bastard altogether.

And 'fall out over men'? Who does this past high school, if at all?

You'd be surprised. In the last couple of weeks I've refereed a slanging match at work over a male collegue. I have a 40+ friend who does act like 14yo about blokes and falls out with other women about it.

Refereed a slanging match at work, Holly? Why weren't the warring pair immediately given a verbal warning/put on a disciplinary?

As for your 40+ friend, are you sure you need a pal like her?

Sorry, should have read work collegues in the pub, but the atmosphere has carried on into work. silly mares

I'm not scared of being single.

Have brought my son up like that and he's 21 - studying and enjoying life, as we both are.

I feel more sorry for those stuck in an awful relationship.

Have met some wonderful men along the way - and some awful ones -

I don't think I need a man to get through life.

Take it as it comes. (And protect your finances!).

"Life is what happens while you're making other plans" - John Lennon.

HTH.

Maybe the sad fact is that once you're out of your 20s, there are staggeringly few moderately attractive, normal (for want of a better word) single men who are looking for a relationship. It's been years since I met any!

I don't see it as a feminist issue I see it as some sort of "ownership" thing which smacks of ignorance which is sad. Sexism isn't only one sided.

He's my man - umm no.
She's my woman - umm no.

Hoi al;l. Velvet I can assure you that there "are staggeringly few moderately attractive, normal (for want of a better word) single men who are looking for a relationship" in your 20s too!

I met a guy tonioght. When I told him I was a school teacher he informed me I must wear glasses and be short sighted; to which I replied I was not short sighted and in fact my eyesight was perfect. He dissappeared. No great loss but seem what I'm up against? I think I'm happy being a speccy chic!

ive never fought with anyone over a man. but i'm thicj as shit so i dont count.

i'm also speccy and sinle and 26. i was out tonight and tehre was szero talent.

even with beer gogles

Stupid people fight over stupid things.

Hmm... Except that the system is still set up to prioritise hetero-monogamy and the nuclear family as the engine house of capitalism. Until it isn't mothers will always be oppressed and stigmatised if they don't have a man and it will always be socially acceptable and politically ignored for fathers to dump their familial responsibilities.

I had a lot of phone calls from ex's partner who clearly expected me to fight for him, but I didn't, I said, please have him back, and I don't ever want to see him again.

She seemed genuinely perplexed by this despite having informed me that he'd been hitting her for many years - which I didn't know, and he'd not done to me (yet)

I couldn't understand why she wanted him

I guess it takes all sorts.

Should clarify he left her for me, as I point blank refused to have an affair,

and went back to her directly I dumped him a few months later. I was relieved.