newly single and ok most of the time until.......

[doinmybest]

....he picks the kids up or drops them off at the end of the path. He beeps and they go out, they let themselves back in the house and he drives off. How can you spend over 15yrs with someone and then they cant even bear to come to your door. hes only been gone a month and it probably feels 'awkward' but its really upsetting :( Dont get me wrong, I'm not expecting him to come in for a brew but a little courtesy would be nice after all HE left ME! Am I expecting too much?

It can be difficult being newly single especially when everything in your life changes.

You can spend years and years with someone yet when they leave you, you start to wonder whether you really knew them all along. It's hard when they treat you like a stranger or avoid you altogether in a situation like this.

But in time you may be glad he's not coming to the door when he drops the kids off. Sorry, I don't think you are expecting too much but often the people we thought we knew turn out to be very different once the relationship is over.

He left you and probably can't bear to look you in the eye, because it's an awkward situation that he created.
And why would you want to talk to him?

Also, he actually left you, so don't expect much good feelings about you on his part.

You have to put him behind you, I'm afraid, and not expect anything from him.

Hugs, anyway. :)

he's acting like a dickhead because he is he feels guilty probably
try to ignore it as much a possible. things will get easer in time

One month in and it is all still very raw for everyone to be honest. It will get better. It is a shame he isn't big enough to come to the door & greet you, but sometimes non contact is more helpful than distressing contact.
At least there is no chance this way it will get unpleasant, you or he will say something you regret, or the DCs see you behaving badly.
Give it time & you'll interact better again.

thanks x