Been seeing someone about 8/9 months. Madly deeply in love with him at first and everything was going amazingly well. I remember saying to someone "it all seems too good to be true". Well, it was.
Over the months it has become increasingly obvious that this guy is emotionally scarred and rather than wanting ME as such, it seems he just wants someone to help him re-create the life he feels he's lost with his ex wife and kids. Yeah he's always there for me, he'll do anything for me. He'll trudge out in the snow to take my bins out at midnight, he'll come in from work and go straight back out again because I've realise I needed something from shop. He's lovely to me. But I know deep down that he's just looking to bridge the gap that his marriage left when it imploded.
When I first realised I was gutted. I mean, I REALLY like this guy and I did contemplate finishing things to save my own sanity but when I think about it - rebound or not, I've had an amazing time with this guy. We'd done so much in so little time, stuff I'd never have had experienced if we'd not met. Stupid stuff like pitching a tent up in the middle of a field overlooking Whitby and getting drunk under the stars. Buggering off to Ireland for the weekend because there was a band playing there that we wanted to see. All the other little things like huddling up together at the fair, watching seals give birth on a beach together - we really have had an amazing, memorable time and if it all ends tomorrow - yeah I'll be upset but I'll get over it. I'll have collected almost a year of fantanstic memories and will maybe be heartbroken for a couple of weeks ....
And to be fair, I'm not in a great position for a serious relationship right now anyway! I'm in the middle of a degree, always working, financially dependant on university bursary - he's made my life fun. Rebound or not, is it really so bad to keep it going despite knowing what it is?