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PMT am i the only one....

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mum2sam · 08/04/2006 22:14

Well im due on any day now or at least hope so. Im am wound up completely and dh is irritating the shit out of me. At this moment in time i dont want to even be in the same room as him. In fact i could go as far to say i dont even think i want to be with him.I feel like im brewing for a big row and am scared i may say some horrible things to him. Whats wrong with me i get like this every month but my emotions are so strong i dont really know whether it really is just the PMT or maybe i do mean it.Things havent been great lately and now they seem 100 times worse. Do think i should see a doctor?

Sometimes i just see red i dont even realise that i could be due on and that mabe im over reacting. I remember when i was pregnant but didnt know it at the time i really couldnt bear dh touching me. To the point i ended up sleeping on the couch. I then told him when he questioned me that i didnt love him and couldnt stand him touching me. I really hurt him. Few days later i found out i was prenant.My hormones really do sem to take over me.

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gibberish · 08/04/2006 22:19

No, you are absolutely not the only one. I feel exactly the same each month, every month.

I have found I have been better the last few months though, mainly due to (I think) to eating much more healthily and exercising more.

Hormones are the pits.

kidstrack2 · 08/04/2006 22:25

I hate hormones too, usually my PMT stands for Pass Me Sweets i eat so much crap!

gibberish · 08/04/2006 22:46

Lol. Yep, me too. Don't have a sweet tooth atall (much to children's disgust) but 2 days before totm could KILL for chocolate.

thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat · 08/04/2006 23:13

not alone. last week dh and I had a huge row as a result of something totally trivial. he walked out and I cried for about an hour, convinced we ought to get divorced. It's AWFUL. I hate it - because it's frighteningly real. At the time it is 100 per cent totally real. Then a day or so later I see it in a totally different light. no helpful suggestions (I'll follow this thread and see if anyone has any) but LOTS of empathy.

monkeytrousers · 08/04/2006 23:14

No, you're not the only one but it isn't something you should expect your partner to live with. It's awful for a partner to have to deal with, it's like living with a manic depressive - really that's not an exaggeration. You can get treatment for this, and if you're unsure about it just try and think how you would handle it if your partner suddenly became aggressive and cruel every couple of weeks..

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mum2sam · 09/04/2006 12:20

Thats exactly how i feel thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat. You dont really realise at the time. Dh does know that i suffer really babdly from it but still he doesnt always seem to back off when i need him to. What sort of treament or help can you get for it?

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Pruni · 09/04/2006 12:23

I think "frighteningly real" is a very good way to describe it.
I have a little chat with myself on a regular basis at that time, telling myself that life is really very good and I will feel different in a few days' time. Sometimes that works, sometimes I just have to hide away.

monkeytrousers · 09/04/2006 12:46

The is a PMT clinic at my GP's - there are various approaches some to do with diet - I haven't done that though so I couldn't personally say how successful it is. I think it's based on taking small amounts of compex carbs regualrly to help regulate brain chemisty and also taking a good omega 3-6-9 suppliment - forever, there's no cure (apart from pregnancy) and it's a question of managing and decreasing teh symptoms. I take 3 evening primrose tabs a day, one with each meal and although it takes a couple of months to kick in it does help. Also for extreme PMT that is impacting on your and your families quality of life you can be prescribed mild anti-depressants, which work really well.

Ask your GP.

muma3 · 09/04/2006 12:50

omg i thought i was a bitch but now i realise im totally norm !!!!

have rows every month and hate it . everything seems so much worse then it is . dp ends up walking out and we end up with our relationship on the edge.

bloody awful !!!!!!!!

ps. excuse the pun

scoobytwo · 09/04/2006 14:12

nope u r not alone although my dh thinks im the only one lol
every month when im due on i sort of go off him&dont want him near me&we go thru the same row every month,him saying have you got someone else,dont you fancy me anymore&i just feel like saying just pi**off and leave me alone,im ok rest of the month so after 11 years you think he would clock on by now

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