Just had a massive row with dp...or 'can a relationship survive learning to drive'??????

[giraffeski]

Have just got my new car and drove 20 miles to and from my tutorial today with my L plates on and a kind (and calm) friend from my tutor group sitting with me.

It boosted my confidence no end and as soon as I got back I asked DP if he wanted to go for a drive, which we did.

So...cue him shouting at me and having a massive row in Tesco carpark because I wouldn't listen to him trying to teach me a 'new' way of remembering something (which i didn't have a problem with anyway).
I tried to explain that it would confuse me further to have two methods in my head but he wouldn't listen, and now he says he won't take me out practising at all.
I have my test in three weeks time and really really need the practice.

Can anyone suggest any way of persuading him to take me out and keep quiet? Or should I just give up on a bad job and try and keep the relationship intact?
Are all men like this?

never learn to drive with dp/dh. they are all insensitive twats behind the wheel. dh still questions how I do things. I've been driving 11 years, will drive anywhere..central london, M25, abroad but he still corrects me.never had a crash, points on my licence..can you not go with a friend?

It's just so much more difficult trying to get a friend to come out with me, as it has to be arranged in advance then. I can only afford two hours a week with the instructor so i need the practice.

He is just such a tw*t! I did explain i didn't want him to be my instructor, just to sit there and tell me if i am about to do anything dangerous.
The funny thing was, on the way back (in dire silence) I drove perfectly, round several roundabouts etc. it just shows how I can do it better if left to myself.

But he won't acknowledge it.

I am thinking of trying to persuade him to go with me and just putting up with his knobbishness for the three weeks I (hopefully!) have left until my test, but is that a really bad idea do we think?

well, you can only try it! lol at knobishness!!!! good luck anyway. maybe this will be a good way of learning to drive calmly while under pressure!

don't know your bloke, but had an aunt who was a very good driver, passed her test and NEVER drove again because of her DH......Personally depends how much you think he'll get to you.....mine makes me want to hit him and destroys my confidence....

Honestly? - Only if you can gag him.

Hmm. Maybe it would be better to leave well alone. I might try and persuade him by being very nice, and asking him to remain silent except in case of emergency (after all, me passing my test would save him a lot of arsing around picking me up from work at 7.30 am). Then, if it happens again, I could give up on a bad job, so to speak.

tell him you're into scientology.. no noise in child birth or driving lessons from a loved one..

snort

very dangerous I would say..... My Dad tried to teach my sister to drive and one day I was following them. Suddenly the car stoppped, she got out of the driver's seat, slammed the door and walked off down the road.
Never again!
(and I would never have been taught by anyone that I had any sort of relationship with - never mind a DP!)

That's just it- I don't want him to teach me! I just need the practice in my car, I have two hours a week from a proper instructor.

And TBH, with my test in three weeks I would hope that I don't need much teaching as such (especially from bolshy blokes).

Definately don't do it girrafski - I tried getting dh to take me out between my 1st and second tests and ended up neednig extra lessons because his sharp intakes of breath whenever I approched a roundabout had made me so nervous I started second guessing myslef constantly and couldn't actually go round one. My instructor was amazed at the loss of confidence I had after just a couple of practice sessions.

I eventually passed 3rd time round (2nd time drove really well apart from the first blody roundabout we got to where I was so determined not to hesitate that I got a dangerous for going when I shouldn't have done!), and I was having only 2 hours a week. The extra practice time with a family member really doesn't help IMO & E

hmm. Might leave it then.

Am just so excited about my new car though!