what do you call the person the you are still married to but no longer with? ex?

[cheesesarnie]

is he my ex dh? even though we're not divorced?

am over thinking this but................

estranged

ahh, thankyou.

I'm in the same situation and I just refer to him as my ex-husband. I try not to refer or speak about him at all though tbh!

Twat turd wanker

just a few suggestions

I usually say "my ex" or hiss his name, depending on how I am feeling.

at the moment we're still being polite but i'll keep these suggestions in mind

on MN it's STBX (soon to be ex) but everywhere else it's separated husband or the children's dad for me...though to be honest I avoid mentioning him at all unless it's really necessary!

Apparently he still wants the Christmas cards to be signed from all of us though ...guess whose writing them (as ever), guess who's not going to be mentioned on them!

fool- i had to quickly write some christmas cards yesterday. it was really odd.

that sounds good- childrens dad.

Kids Dad, that's what he's in my phone as well.

Me too... he's not 'ex husband' until you're divorced. You still have a husband so you can't marry someone else. We've been together 27 years so 'children's dad' would seem rather remote.

How I refer to him would depend on who's asking. I'd probably say 'my husband' but add 'although we're separated'.

I don't bear him any malice and have no wish to marry anyone else

Well, I do have a new man in my life so I try to avoid talking about "my husband" as it feels a little odd.

Work no in my book under SFB aka Shit For Brains
Home no in my book under WSD aka Walking Sperm Donor

I'd say ex and add husband to that when the divorce comes through.

thankyou

Twunt is a commonly used phrase... I referred to mine as STBXH on MN. Now he actually is XH. In my phone he is twunt. I may have to change that when DD learns how to read

i just called him the ex, to people as thats what he was , could have been ex H, ex P, ex anything...

. ex sounds perfect. twunt is being saved incase he decides to behave like one