My background I come from a family of 4 dsisters we are all in our 40's now two live abroad and myself and another sister live still where we were born.
I am the youngest ds and the two middle ds live abroad my eldest ds lives at home.
I have always had a difficult relationship with eldest ds from when we were young this ds bullied us all.
One ds who moved abroad when they were very young because they shared a bedroom with this ds and they were only allowed a single bed in the room with all her things stored underneath it (they shared a room)..
Eldest ds has always been hard work in the family and the one where my Mum always was trying to keep her sweet/happy etc.
She rang me up crying once when I had cancelled a trip to the cinema once (my child was sick) saying I had cancelled on purpose just to annoy her and how I was always doing these sorts of things.
Fast forward to 4 years ago when my exh walked out on me we were together 19 years and married for 16 years with 2 dc together.
I was devastated and thought my world had ended and didn't think I would be able to cope with everything. I also have a history of depression and fear my own mind terribly and what its capable of.
My eldest ds complained so much about me not asking about how she had gotten on at a hospital app, that my Mum was going to fall out with me over it.
This is about 2 days after my exh walked out on me and I had no one else really here that I could talk to.
Well everything just blew in my mind that my ds was trying to exclude my family from me at such a hard time that I told my dm and df that if I had to keep putting my ds in front of myself and my dc for the rest of my life then I was finished with them all..