Last Thursday, my husband of 1 year (we had dated for 4) told me that he wanted a divorce. A month ago, I found out that the was having an emotional affair via text with another woman in town. He admits to never liking her or wanting to sleep with her, but rather she showed him attention and approval and he liked that. Their started off with business talk and then moved to his flirty banter. Last Thursday he told me he was going to a meeting and I found out he went to a Christmas party instead. He had hoped she would be there. But again, doesn't want anything to do with her necessarily. He said, once he would get what he needs, he would move on looking for the next women to show him approval.
He had a horrible childhood. He was conceived before marriage and his maternal grandparents would tell him, even into early adulthood, that he should have been aborted. His parents would tell him this also, at a young age. His father was emotionally abusive, telling my husband as a child, that he was never good enough, etc.
I am his 2nd wife. He has 2 lovely daughters that I have fallen in love with. My husband is depressed, always anxious, cannot focus, cannot handle daily tasks of paying bills, answering phone calls or having a normal conversation without becoming incredibly stressed. He has been angry more often. He feels judged every time he walks into a room. He is addicted to pornography and doesn't feel it's wrong.
All of this, and I still love him. I love the core of who he is. I fear that he is making this decision in this unhealthy state of mind that he is currently in. I refuse to end our marriage when he is mentally ill. He has agreed to see a psychiatrist. How do I cope in the mean time? I am committed to walk this journey to healthy with him. Am I crazy?