i am desperate please help me

[sosotiredagain123]

I posted earlier about dh and he lost it about an hour ago kicked punched etc and then woke dc up and said mummy hit me i have told dc i did not and am leavibg tomorrow they do not know whether not to come i can't leave then

[MadameOneSword]

Oh good lord, how awful, please do what these guys have said and phone the police, that's nonlifento live, you're doing more damage to the children by keeping them in that environment, get them and you to a safe place, please
Xx

[HollaAtMeBaby]

Please ring the police. If you don't feel that you are in immediate danger from him now, you can ring 101 instead of 999 - some people find that less scary.

[sosotiredagain123]

i have just crept out and stolen the safe key from his key ring so i can get pass ports etc he won't let me have one normally he has one and his mum i wish he would die

[waltermittymistletoe]

Please please please phone the police and PLEASE don't leave the children with him.

[scripsi]

Call the police and show them the injuries - you need to do this tonight!

[natureslaw]

If you have been on Mumsnet for any length of time you will know that posters disagree on every thread.
On this thread, however no-one disagrees. Everone here is in agreement that you should call the Police and do it now.
It doesn't matter if the Police arrive and he shouts and lies, the Police have seen this all before.
You are in a dangerous situation.
Ring the Police, do it now.

[sosotiredagain123]

if i do it puts his job in jepordy

[natureslaw]

If you don't he is putting your life and that of your children in jeopardy.

[DollyTwat]

Stop worrying about him and do this for yourself and your dc
You'll never regret it

[MadameOneSword]

Is his job more important tan your children's well being? Please, if you not do it for yourself do it for them

[feelokaboutit]

having his job put in jeopardy is the very least of what he deserves, he should be in jail

[feelokaboutit]

the person who is supposed to love and value you the most has just kicked and punched you, this alone, never mind all his previous behaviour, is enough to warrant you and your children getting away from him forever

[SirBoobAlot]

Please call the police, and call them now, do not wait for the morning.

[feelokaboutit]

dear sosotired, I have to go to bed now, I have sent you a PM

[WandaDoff]

999. Please call it now.

Where are you?

[LapsedPacifist]

Police. Now. You have injuries that he has inflicted, and the police will see them.

I had to do this many years ago. The policewomen who came round were amazing. They checked my bruises, and at NO TIME did they ever suggest that I was at fault, or disbelieve me. They made sure that DS was OK, and they arrested ex-DP immediately.

They told me over and over again, I HAD DONE THE RIGHT THING!

[AlfalfaMum]

Sweetheart, he has put his job in jeopardy. His stupid job is not more important than your safety.
Please get help and get out of there.

I read your other post about how he makes you do absolutely everything and gets abusive if you don't (and even if you do :(). It will be obvious to everyone that you are the primary carer of the kids, the kids know who it is that does everything for them; there is no way in hell that man would get custody. Get them away from him, lest they grow up thinking this is normal.

[NervousAt20]

You poor thing I think you should call the police and they will remove him tonight. I hope you and your DCs are safe and please remember this isn't your fault x

[mum11970]

Please, please phone the police now. Things will only get worse if you don"t. Hugs xx

[CaliforniaLeaving]

Ca;; the Police sweetheart, you need to look out for you and protect the kids. He's adult he can take care of himself. Stay safe, call the Police and let them help you before he does even more damage. He has caused all this not you.

[BewitchedBotheredandBewildered]

I haven't read your other thread but, as someone else said, it's very rare for everyone on Mumsnet to agree.
They all seem to agree here.
So please phone the police and end this nightmare for you and your children.
Be brave sweetheart. Pick up the phone. 999

[mathanxiety]

Phone the police.

They will not look down at you for having a glass of wine or whatever. It is not a crime.

You are not putting his job in jeopardy by calling them. They will not do anything about charging him without your consent.

Calling the police is not a life changing decision where he loses his job and your children lose their home and schools. The police will come, check the facts and take him down to the station.

You get your breather. He gets to realise that you are not a punchbag and that there is a higher authority than him. It may be all he needs to get a sense of perspective. Or maybe not.

Either way, the police have him on their radar and this is a very good thing. Also, you get the incident recorded, and this is also a very good thing.

Don't let all the 'What Ifs' about his job and disrupting the children's lives swirl through your mind.
There is a lot of help and support out there for you and the police will see to it that you know where to turn, how to get the support you need. Your children need that support too. How do you think they feel having been woken up by this man the way he woke them tonight?

[Bossybritches22]

OP you ok?

[sosotiredagain123]

Just packing will up date later when I can

[joblot]

Good luck. Am rooting for you