what is phone sex?

[desparatelyseekingsomething]

stupid question I know but I've always wondered. Do you just talk about having sex or do various things whilst on the phone??? For some reason I can't imagine it being that erotic - I know that men ring sex lines but have always seen it as a male thing. For some reason I think that I'd just laugh if someone started talking to me on the phone

Put phone on vibrate, insert in to fanjo, go to landline and phone yourself

Sorry could not resist

You are supposed to talk about sexy things ("What are you wearing?" type things I think) whilst...doing things.

I don't know anyone who has done it, but I think FaceTime and Skype have replaced phone sex, because they add a visual aspect. I know there were webcams before but that didn't seem to become as mainstream.

I don't think it'd be erotic. I think I'd probably laugh hysterically, but each to their own!

What are you wearing?

Y Fronts

still as to why it is erotic for the woman

I've never had phone sex, not sure it'd do much for me, but I've had friends who have worked on the sex lines. One used to do her ironing whilst taking the calls, she was ever so good at it.

It's all about creating a fantasy, using imagination, finding what they want, where they want it to lead, listening to them, and generally getting fruity.

I'd laugh too much, or get my ironing out

I did cyber and phone sex, shamefully, its incredibly hideous, i got bored

It's all about creating a fantasy, using imagination, finding what they want Do some women like it though? (My post was motivated by a post from a woman who appeared to have had phone sex with a partner - ie some kind of mutual thing rather than a sex line)

I'm sure there are plenty that enjoy it, sometimes it's nice to build up a bit of suspense but I'm not a fan of phone sex, a bit of sexy talk is nice

I've had phone sex. It absolutely depends on the chemistry between you and the other person. It only worked with one partner.

It was amazing, once I'd ditched inhibitions and embarrassment. A lot of description goes on, moreso about the act/what you're doing than what you're wearing.

The women are usually the ones earning the money and men phone them for sexy talk. Saw it TV some years ago and the woman was doing her ironing, while acting with a sexy voice on the phone.

But with Skype that would be going too far. Porno interaction, which could be videoed from their side.

I like it. I have done it (and online chat sex) to the point of (my) orgasm with different partners.

Me and my DH used to when we were about 17 and didn't live together.

Was fun at the time but wouldn't be bothered by it now

Do some women like it though?

Oh yes, and we text sex most nights - makes DHs traffic jams so mch more interesting .... it all adds to the anticipation when he gets home.

I think if you are used to them talking dirty to you during foreplay/sex or whispering what they want to do to you on nights out and that turns you on then phone sex is great and you just tell each other what you would like to be doing should the other person be there and what you are doing instead IYSWIM. My recent ex could do some very, very nice things on the phone. But then he could do the same in a cafe (out of earshot of anyone else obviously!) while we were sitting next to each other

However if the thought of them talking dirty to you on a normal evening would make you giggle and turn you on in no way or if they have little imagination or are not the chatty type then phone sex will probably do the same (have tried it in the past with other people and I would have been more excited about going to bed with a cup of tea and a good book) I have had BFs who I never would have tried phone sex with because them talking dirty would have had no effect whatsoever on me and would have felt really weird even while in bed never mind on the phone

Some people are simply better at phone sex than others (whether it's commercial or personal) and some people are not interested in it as their sexual desires are focussed very much on either visual or tactile stimulation.

Personal phone sex, ie between people who either have sex with each other regularly or are about to have sex with each other for the first time, can be very, very exciting. Or it can be ridiculous, gross, or unnerving. For it to work, at least one participant's got to be good at telling stories and talking about sex. It's also more likely to go well if you either know the specifics of what turns the other person on or you get lucky with a guess.