am I just being petty

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ok had some professional photos done of dd, have a few copies which are being given to just the grandparents, my MIL wants to copy for her son and wife however I don't want them to have a copy (not told her this) they never bloody bother ringing or calling to our house to see their neice infact since she has been born they have only seen her 3 times!!! i never clicked with SIL as she saw me as a 'threat' and I really bloody begrudge her having a photo of my child in her house, is this me being petty or am I right to feel like this

Give them a photo. But not an expensive one - MIL can pay to have them copied.

I can relate to this as my Sil never sees my DS either. However, by preventing her from having pictures of your DD you are stooping to your Sil's level, and you will never be able to say that she has no interest in her niece as she will be able to say that you prevent her from even having a picture of her. I'd let her have a picture, what harm can it do?

Think you do have a right to feel like this. On the other hand as wannabe said at least if there is a picture of your dd at their home it might jog their memory when they last saw her. Let SIL have a problem with you. It is her prob and not yours. Have fallen out badly with FIL and dont want my ds 5yr to see him ever again but know that wont happen due to dp taking him round. But can relate to how you feel.

I don't get on too well with my brother. Every year he gets a school photo of my 2 ds's, and every year there is no sign of it in his house, however all his friends children's pictures are verywhere, living room, hall etc. So i've stopped giving him one, he obviously doesn't appreciate it.
I can relate to how you feel.

yes it's petty

Does your SIL actually want a photo of your dd? If not, why would MIL assume that she would? She'll probably get it and put it in a drawer

Dior - words out of mouth!

pmsl!