I had a friend, that I had been friends with for years. We did things with our kids (from when they were babies), and spent time with our dhs together as well. We lived close by to each other, and not a week went past when we didn't see each other for a good long chat.
Then I had something awful happen, and she and her dh were supportive, kind and helpful. She had another friend who I had met a few times, but didn't know well. She had a very similar awful thing happen, and over the course of a few months we became more friendly as we were in the same boat, had children at the same school, also lived near each other. Friend A did not like this one bit. But somehow it became my fault. I had "stolen" friend B from her...we were "deliberately excluding" her...it went on and on.
I tried on several occasions to clear the air with her, to find out what was really the problem, to sort it all out. To no avail. I have had no contact with her for around four years now, and we don't even speak if I pass her in the street.
Friend B agreed with me that Friend A was behaving a bit unreasonably but wouldn't address it since it was nothing to do with her. They are still good friends, and apparently friend A will occasionally ask what I'm up to.
However, this still upsets me greatly. Our lives have all moved on, quite dramatically, but I do still miss the friendship we used to have, and look back on the good times we shared with great affection. I really don't believe there is any way of sorting it out now, but I would like to be able to get past all of this, can anyone offer any advice?