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sorry to lower the tone, but can I talk money??

5 replies

doinmybest · 24/11/2012 20:42

my H has recently left me and my 2 DC's. I need to talk money quickly because I am financially dependent on him. (low paid p/t job) What do I ask for? CSA calculator says £110 per week but that wont even cover his share of the mortgage! Do I ask for that PLUS mortgage share or utilities or what?? So confused :( SO worried :(

OP posts:

Taghain · 24/11/2012 20:51

You need Citizen's Advice or a lawyer. He should keep up payments on the mortgage as before.

cozietoesie · 24/11/2012 21:11

See a lawyer or CAB doin. Many lawyers will give an initial consultation free to set the scene for you. Try if possible to get one on recommendation from someone you know (who won't spill the beans.) You'll likely need a terrier at your back.

Valdeeves · 25/11/2012 09:47

It's supposed to start at 50% split of all assets and you work your way up or down with lawyers. Have you contacted the benefits organisations to see what you are entitled to living alone?

mumblechum1 · 25/11/2012 09:52

OP, stick this in Legal. I'm just going out but either I, MOS, Babybarrister, Collaborate or someone will be able to give you good advice.

HettySunshine · 25/11/2012 10:00

Hey there, I'm a family law legal secretary. The CSA only refer to the amount he should pay you for your dc. The mortgage, bills and spousal maintenance are completely separate. If your income is low you may well be eligible for legal aid, just type 'am I eligible for legal aid?' Into google and there is a gov website with a calculator you can use. You can then get a lawyer straight away. Even if you not though there may be a case for your hus to pay some, if not all of your legal costs.

The most important thing is not to panic, you are entitled to an equal quality of life to your husband. Also, depending how long you were married (or indeed living together as a couple) you may also be due a cut of his pension.

The court will require you to have attempted mediation before progressing to financial proceedings - once again have a look online but your solicitor will be able to recommend someone.

I hope that helps a little but if you have any specific questions, just ask!

You are not alone! X

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