Support for abused men?

[JammySplodger]

Just wondering, does anyone know if there is a forum out there for abused men, or somewhere like mumsnet that covers all sorts of things, including abuse support?

Asking on behalf of my brother.

I've already pointed him towards Mankind and Mens Advice Line (who he's contacted), just wondering what other places / sites there might be.

So sorry about your brother. I'm afraid that the only one I'm aware of is Mankind which you're already aware of.

I don't know if it applies, but Broken Rainbow also deal with domestic abuse for those who are lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender.

Both these should have links to other services on their websites as well.

Thank you CatLady.

There are some good links to news stories and youtube clips on the Mankind website (more relevant as it's his girlfriend doing the hitting), and I'm sooo relieved he's started opening up about it all and seeing it for what it is but I'm sure he'd find it useful to talk to others in the same boat somewhere.

I've found it useful asking for advice on here (started a thread a few days ago which was helpful) but I think he'd be a bit intimidated.

Start with mankind.

I am sure he will be able to find a out other resources or more local ones through them. I wish him luck and hope things start to get better for him.

Thanks (and thanks Leclerc for posting).

He's down with some good mates this weekend chatting about things over a spot of fixing the car, felling a tree and then a few beers. Great as they are though, I doubt they'll have the insight of other blokes who've been through the same thing and understand how abuse works, which is what you lot on here (and the great helplines) know sooo much more about than me & DB.

I'm still really grateful that I got to learn and spot (and then pass onto him) about how cycles of abuse work, and that there's emotional, financial and psycological aduse in addition to the physical that's coming on now.

I haven't come across a Web forum for male victims (at least not UK based), though I have found the phone support provided by Mankind to be invaluable. Some local authorities now offer support (including groups) for men who are or have been abused by partners (it will be on their Website under something like 'community safety'). A few regional branches of Women's Aid do also.

Last year I was incredibly nervous (and somewhat intimidated) about posting on MN, and did so as something of a last resort. It was one of the best things I ever did, and some of the support and advice I received will stay with me.

I do hope your brother is OK. Best wishes to you both .

Thank you!

He's flitting about the country a bit between friends and family (he has alot of people very willing to support & help him, which I think has given him alot of strength), but he hopefully has some steady work up our way so may be here long enough to access local help.

If nothing else, he seemed to find the idea of relate counselling potentially useful (for getting his own thoughts in order) and there are several counsellors in town here and in our auntie's town, where he might lodge for a bit.

And I'll see if he wants to jump on the PC when he stops by next - I really appreciate you saying it helped you! Thanks :)