Need to vent DH is being a twat

[GingerPCatt]

So I've put in my notice at work and have spent a bit of time over the past few days arranging my leaving do. DH works away so I could only do it on a Monday since he's home then. It's all been arranged and my lovely boss got a babysitter especially so she could come. Just now DH has told me that he'll probably have to work that day. So not only do I need to arrange child care for DS I'll have to completely rearrange my leaving do. Argh!!! Why couldn't he tell me sooner? He just drops that bomb and then he has to go back to work.
I'm home alone with DS and just needed to vent. He said he'd call later to discuss.

Listen, it's my leaving day that day and it's all been arranged around when you said you'd be available. It's important to me that I can go to this. You'll have to either tell your work you're not available for that one day, or sort some childcare out for DS.

Yeah, your right that's what I need to say. It just bugs that he just springs this on me and then is like bye talk to you later when I'm going what the fuck!?
We'll talk later and sort it out. I'm just feeling lonely since I'm on my own with no one other than DS to talk to. I'm basically a line parent 4 days a week and it's really hard - major respect to any lone parents out there. My family lives far away and DH and I share most of our friends so I feel bad bitching about him to them.

Do you have a new job to go to? Sounds like maybe a bit more time out of the house (with other adult company) might be valuable?

I've applied for a few jobs but so far no luck. We're moving in jan so DH and I will be living together again. That will help a lot since we'll actually have time together rather then phone calls. Plus hes pretty good about splitting the cold care and housework.
I just need a break and a night out!

Sounds like it. I'd put my foot down over leaving do if I were you. Did you talk to him about it yet?

Is your H generally a bit thoughtless or vague, or does he not like the idea of you socialising without him?

If it was your husband's leaving do and you were meant to be looking after the children but then had to work, would he cancel his do or feel it was his responsibility to find replacement childcare?

If the answer to that is no and no, don't cancel your evening and do suggest he finds childcare. You say you've got mutual friends, so suggest he calls one of them.

Update
DH and I talked last night and he's going to try to take the day off. He's finishing a major work project that week and his boss is taking the week off leaving DH and another guy to sort out everything. It will be ok
His last-minute ness does drive me insane. He forgets to tell me plans until the last minute. It's usually not a problem just annoying.

its difficult. My DH is not a great communicator and doesn't tell me about his schedule unless I ask. I've just now said 'what are you doing next wk' and discovered that he will be abroad for most of it. How can you just not mention things like that? I know he goes a lot and its nothing exciting but jeeze.
Times like now make me glad I had to give up work due to ill health and don't have to juggle work and kids like I used to. Its really tough and I agree, kudos to lone parents.