How do you recover from emotional abuse?

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Because it has coloured many of my relationships since..Just that really. I've had cbt but the damage is very deep and quite severe.

Have you ever done a programme like the freedom programme at all? That can be really positive in helping people move forward from abuse.

CBT is great in certain situations but doesn't always work. Straightforward counselling might be the way to go. The aim would be to identify what aspects of the abuse you still hold onto - what things were said to you that you still believe, deep down, and what patterns emerge from your relationships, so you can avoid them in future.

Counselling and, I would suggest, not getting back into a relationship for a pretty long time. I think, when a behaviour pattern is so deeply ingrained as to be habitual, it's not enough to understand it. What's often needed is a fundamental shift away from the trigger and for long enough to properly develop a different approach.

Therapy - am on year 3 and it's made a huge difference.

You will, I promise. Stronger than before. Good counselling.

Psuchodynamic therapy helped me but you have to fi.d the right therapist. Mine was very god but a bit doom and gloom. Not very cheery..