Omg!!!! I've just found out

[Stopthepidgeon]

Okay - so following on from my should I should I not track my cheating husband thread .....

He has taken our dc out to visit his parents - and left his computer open

I am dumbstruck to find out he has secret savings in excess of £1 million!!

This is not a stealth boast - I am in total shock

[SoleSource]

Could he be.involved in criminal.activity,? Could he be keeping the money for.somebody else?

[LauriesFairyonthetreeeatsCake]

Can't you transfer some of it to your account?

[ScarletWomanoftheVillage]

Go shopping...

[ScarletWomanoftheVillage]

[ScarletWomanoftheVillage]

Actually, love laurie's suggestion...

[GhostShip]

I don't think we should be encouraging anyone to steal, I'm more worried about what his reaction could be. It could get violent, money can turn even the nicest of characters into monsters.

Sorry to be a party pooper!

[GoldPlatedNineDoors]

Dear lord. You need some savvy legal advice and sharpish.

[GoldPlatedNineDoors]

Ghost they are married. It isnt stealing.

[cozietoesie]

Usually can't be done these days anyway - what with security thingies to set up new payees.

Just screenshot OP and see a solicitor.

[cozietoesie]

PS - and money laundering regs. There will be limits to amount that can be transferred online - less than £10k, I think. Not worth even thinking about in view of the possible problems it would cause.

[GhostShip]

After reading up, yes it can be considered stealing in the eyes of the law. Just because someone is married doesn't give them rights to take whatever they want

[GhostShip]

It depends how it was acquired and when, the OP doesn't know any of that so she can't just take it and telling her to do so is a bit daft

[Redorwhitejusthaveboth]

Is he a drug dealer?

[maras2]

Or a bank robber ?

[cozietoesie]

Easy enough if you're in the City and get some nice bonuses.

You should make your solicitor very happy, OP.

[Bogeyface]

So you live in a home that needs work, with a cheat, a liar and a man who has 7 figures in the bank that he didnt think you needed to know about?

Sorry, but I would be divorcing him now. I may have been able to get past the affair if I felt he was really trying but this just proves how duplicitous he really is. There is no way I could forgive this at all.

[Bogeyface]

Oh and I wouldnt be breathing a word about knowing about it until the financial settlement, in fact I would be pretending that I was worried about how I was going to cope.

[GretaGip]

I really really really want you to upload a photo to your profile.

It's been a long time since I've seen ssveen figures in a bank account.

Can you pixellate any pretinnet info?

[Bogeyface]

OP, you need to clear your internet history and dont keep the file on your computer. Print off several hard copies, keep them somewhere out of the house (work?) and put the file on a flash drive and keep that out of the house too.

Does he know your username on MN? I would be asking for this thread to be deleted. You dont want to give him any reason to think that you know, as then he will just move it somewhere else.

[ChippingInLovesAutumn]

Play nice for the rest of the weekend - best lawyer you can find Monday morning.

[WildWorld2004]

I would see a solicitor. He had an affair and he has kept money from you. What else is he hiding?

[chocolatespiders]

[cozietoesie]

Thanks Bogeyface. I was just coming back to the thread to recommend those very things.

Save everything offsite OP and make sure that that computer is as clean as he could expect. (ie leave his stuff on it given that it's his computer but remove anything you've downloaded, copied to file etc.)

[lazydays2]

I don't suppose you could transfer some to Mumsnet contacts for safe keeping over christmas maybe? Would ne notice a thousand or ten going out of the account?

[lovelyladuree]

Does he need an expensive mistress? I am available for weekdays and occasional weekends.