My DH appears to have no emotions

[coffeeisusuallytheanswer]

I've just been reading another thread about men who don't show emotions. DH and I have been struggling for a long time due to his apparent lack of emotion and affection. We are at stalemate - I think he lacks emotion, he thinks I am too emotional. Hugs are rare. He doesn't know what to do if I cry. He doesn't get excited for me or even angry at me. Yet he seems genuinely confused if I question whether he loves me.

So I am well aware we have issues. However I have just realised in ten years of being together:

I have never seen him cry
He has never got angry or raised his voice / shouted
We have never had an argument as he does not engage
I have never known him get truly excited about anything
I don't think he has ever laughed 'properly'

I have always thought his lack of emotions strange...but this isn't normal is it?

And more importantly how do you cope? I think I am likely having an emotional affair - certainly I turn to a male friend for emotional support not DH but that is because DH just doesn't seem to recognise emotion. Without leaving I'm not sure what the solution is...

[Demolicious]

Coffee, I have just found this thread in a roundabout way after googling 'How to talk to someone about how you feel when they have no feelings'. Google mentioned 'alexithymia' and I came on MN to see if anyone had any experience on here. Things have not been good between DH and I for a while now and whilst alot of threads suggest talking openly and honestly with each other, this is very difficult with DH. For sometime, I have been thinking about leaving him but the thought of it frightens the life out of me. A few things have happened which have finally made me realise he just doesn't get it and I don't think he ever will. I have tried making an independent life for myself but every now and again, I question myself. I didn't get married to be independent and I don't want to get to the stage of being needy and clingy.

Just wanted to know how are things are now ?