Am I being unreasonable?

[hoolagirl]

Right, please don't shoot me down here!
My DP kept asking me to go and see a gig and I didn't want to go. It turns out that he had arranged to go with a female work colleague and Im guessing he knew I wouldn't be too happy about him going alone with her and that was why he wanted me to go.
They are very friendly, but i'm pretty sure that's it.
I don't want to go, but I don't want him to go either as it would be just him and her, so I've said this to him but now i'm feeling like a bitch but I know I would be worried sick if he did go !!
Am I just being a nutter?

I wouldn't let my dh out with anyone female but that's my own personal problem :)

Did he genuinely think you'd go? If so I'd consider trusting him, if not then I'd refuse to let him.

If he's reasonable I'd sit him down and say you're feeling edgy. I say if, because my dh would just get all defensive :)

I have male friends i go out with without dh and have often wondered how I;d feel the oher way round. Truth is though, he knows the friends in question and knows there is zero cahnce of anything untoward

I regularily let my DH out with other women

When we were first married - I was concerned - but a friend said "either you trust him or you don't and if you don't trust him then you shouldn't be together"

That kinda made sense to me

I do trust him, but I know i'm insecure and I know that even if he had no 'wotsits' I would still feel the same!
He does genuinely want me to go.
He wouldn't go all defensive if I brought it up, I told him very frankly why I didn't want him to go......
Previous tosser boyfriends have obviously left their mark !!

I dont agree with Katymac - sorry

I was v v trusting - husband worked away a lot and even when receiving txts from female collegue at weekend, I was assured all was well

now I am single parent with H just about to move into 2nd home with HER

collegues are differemt tpo long standing friendships
collegues should remain at work IMO

MistressMiggins that's my fear.
I know she's married and a bit older, but if you see someone on a regular basis..... !
I've said this to him.... I know it might get brought up again and i'm definetly sticking to my guns!
An ex once started going everywhere with my so called best friend and her dp and it turned out the three of them were having a very 'cosy' time!
I do trust him and feel he's even being a bit niave, but I just don't want to be in that gut wrenching situation ever again!