Is this normal?

[Jubaloo222]

Have been married for 5 years, together 7, have two beautiful dc's.

Is it normal to not be aloud to even have a conversation let alone be friends with a guy?

Got married and settled down young, i'm 25 he's 35. Can i only speak too/ know women? I feel like I'm trusted, but never aloud to be in a situation when I'm not, IYSWIM. I don't go out on the town, Well have a few times but its not worth the hassle, I'll be in the 'doghouse' for days with shitty comments about other men.

He is the lovelist guy he just thinks I'm gonna run off with someone I think. I trust him completely with everyone. Wish he could me. Any ideas? Or am I over reacting? I just want to have a night out with the girls without an interrogation for days after.

I have never cheated, or even thought about it. I feel really trapped in a way. Hopefully you wise women will tell me this is normal and to get over it

You were 18 when you initially met and thus had no real life experience behind you. He likely targetted you back then because being so much younger you were naive.

You are married to a controlling man and controlling behaviour is abusive behaviour.

You cannot fix this nor should you even attempt to. He is not your project to rescue, fix or save.

I would suggest you read "Why does he do that?" written by Lundy Bancroft; your man will be within those pages.

This man wants to break you completely and turn you into a meek subserviant woman because he at heart is a paranoid, weak and bullying man. He wants to own you and keep you in that gilded cage of his own making out of paranoia; he does not love you at all because he does not know the meaning of the word and likely never has. You and by turn the children are but possessions to him to use as he sees fit. Such abusive men too are very plausible to those in the outside world; he does not treat outsiders in the same way as you does he?.

BTW what are his parents like?.

Also what do you want to teach your children about relationships here?. Currently both of you are teaching them damaging lessons. This is not a relationship model fit for purpose is it?.