Will try not to drip feed.
Last Remembrance Day saw me holding hands with and saying goodbye to my Hero, my Dad. Obviously I am / have been devestated , today ( although not the anniversary date , he is on my mind lots.
I have also lost my Mum , so becoming 'parentless' has hit me hard, loosing Dad compounded loosing Mum all over again .
The sale of Dads house completed on Friday. Although not the only benefactor of his will , I will soon inherit a 'chunk' of money.
This is where the relationship bit kicks in.
I am married, with 2 children. We have a mortgage.
Husband is the 'bread winner' I have in essence been a SAHM for the last 14 years ( part time work now).
In my head - I could soon pretty much pay off the mortgage and make life less stressy financially , which seems most sensible. That was my plan and what my Dad would of liked.
But:
Mid year my H told me of his affair. We have together decided to stay together and work it out. At the time of discovery it was awful , both said awful things but following decision that we both wanted each other , it is working , we are happier and stronger than for years. OW is now out if picture - I have no thoughts or suspicion that they are still involved at all.
He has and is doing everything to make me feel 'the one' again. And it's working , both ways.
Yes, I was deceived without knowing it before, I am not totally neive that I could be wrong , it could go tits up- but I really don't think so.
Although months not years in, I do think we 'will make it' and be happy doing so.
But whereas before I knew what to do with my inheritance now part of me wonders about 'plan b' .
That could be a good exit fund...... But saying that I may never need it.
What I would like most of all would be still have both my parents here to make me feel complete again . Then I
Wouldn't have to make any big grown up decisions about finances at all , instead they could spend it and give me the best hugs ever I miss - but that's not real life is it.
I have tried not to give too much detail as I don't want to 'out myself' in real life - if you recognise me, please don't let me know it.
Thanks.