I've been separated from my H for a year now, finances still not sorted though not for want of trying. History is a few years ago we were in a mess financially so we agreed a Debt Man't Plan through Payplan, which H has continued to pay for the past year. I'm earning well under 10k, H about 40k. Was contacted by Payplan early this week, H now wants to transfer half of debts into my name, legally hes allowed to as their joint debts. Financially theres no way i can manage a payment, i'm getting tax credits but i'm only just managing to pay the household bills and buy food. Theres no money for extras, i'm talking a few Aldi sweets in my trolley each week just to save for christmas so my sons have something to upwrap. Payplans solution is for me to declare myself bankrupt. H's answer is we'll both declare ourselves bankrupt, he'll then not have to pay as much out each month to us. He doesn't give us a penny directly, he pays the mortgage direct to the building society. Hes already moved from a small flat, to a rented house, telling me his outgoings had now increased so he'd have to reduce the amount he was paying, hes also changed his car, how hes managed it financially i'm not sure as we're not supposed to take out any more loans. He has the spare money each money to afford it to do this, hes spending money socially too, hes still lives locally so i'm finding out. If he was seriously struggling for money i'd understand, except it just seems hes only doing it with the intention of hurting me yet again. He just seems to spend his time, working out new ways to avoid paying the mortgage for us. He has missed a few payments already this year, using the money to pay his bond on his house.
Has anyone any experience of H's deliberately declaring themselves bankrupt to avoid paying so much maintenance. I just don't know what to do anymore, i've picked myself up so many times in the last year, however hard its been, but this just seems too big for me to cope with.