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33 replies

MustBeInsane · 02/11/2012 23:20

Sorry I just need to vent and I'm guessing writing it all down may help... I hope.

The DH went out again tonight. So many times before he has promised to be home at a reasonable time and mostly doesn't stick to his word. Comes in, in the early hours drunk and has a go at me for bein angry, the next day he's full of apology.
He wasn't going to go out tonight but called this afternoon to ask if I minded if he did. Promised to be home by 10 at the latest. I said I don't mind (even though I did) as long as he promised not to do as he usually does because that will be the last time I take his word for it.
10.15 came I txt asking where he was. No reply. I called twice at half past, the second time he answered. We got into an argument because as usual he 'bumped into some he hasn't seen for years' I wasn't having it this time and told him exactly how angry I was. Of course he denies 'promising' to be home by 10, then some how I'm getting the blame because I do this and if I didn't do that ect. Not sure how any of this is my fault?
In the end I said come home now or don't come home at all. He said fine I won't come home then so I swore at him and hung up.
I now feel like shit.
He was meant to be doing the night feeds with our ds2 and meant to be getting up with them in the morning so I can have a little lay in. Don't think that's gonna happen now.
I'm just sick and tired of this happening. I knew it would and he banged on about how it wouldn't and like an idiot I beloved him.
Sorry for waffling.

OP posts:
lucyellenmum · 03/11/2012 10:01

oh, just tell him to go - he is of no bloody use to you anyway. He'll be off out tonight, get the locks changed.

AnEerieAirOfHorror · 03/11/2012 10:04

Imho i would ask him to leave when he wakes up. I would not be treated like that by someone who is ment to love and support me.

t0lk13n · 03/11/2012 10:04

Go out today without the children....even if it is just for a coffee....you need space and to not listen to him whinging about ...why .....it is tour fault....but it isn`t because he is a grownup. You deserve better.

Youcanringmybell · 03/11/2012 15:59

Hope you are ok op x

MustBeInsane · 03/11/2012 20:56

I am ok thank you for asking. He was an arse most of the day but he has since apologised and has again stated that he will change and is being nice now. I've told he has come unbelievably close to me leaving and this is it now if it happens again then he will have used up all the chances I am willing to give. I've told him he's wrecked my trust in him, he's going to have to earn that back, and it wot happen over night!

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MushroomSoup · 03/11/2012 21:01

Isn't that what you told him last time?

MammaTJ · 03/11/2012 21:03

I locked the door and text him to say not bother coming home!! He knew I meant it and stayed on a mates sofa. Rang the next morning asking if he was allowed home (he was). Came home very apologetic. Basically missed the hellish drunken row by doing that and he learnt his lesson.

JustFabulous · 03/11/2012 21:07

Is it really his last chance?

Doesn't sound like it Sad.

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