ok, so I have a (platonic) male work friend, who I've known for some years and although not close mates, we did work together a few years back and would occasionally have a coffee and a gossip, he is good company and very quick-witted.
He no longer works in the same part of the country so in recent years, we've communicated by phone/email.
I don't know his wife well but on the ocassions I did meet her (before they moved) I thought she was truly lovely, really lovely and they also have 2 gorgeous kids.
Now the crunch.
Some months ago I found out he had been unfaithful to his wife, that he'd admitted (to a mutual friend) that it hadn't been the first time. His wife had found out, they'd tried counselling and he'd done the dirty again. He has now moved out and I gather the relationship is irreconcilable. I understand his wife was/is devastated.
I am soooo disappointed in him - I really never thought he would do such a thing (prob because I never ever saw him in that way) and since the split, we've not been in touch. He has never told me any of this, but I guess he guesses I know.
Now, the thing is, should I get in touch? He was/is a mate and although I could quite easily live without the friendship, potentially sooner or late we will bump into one another in a work capacity.
I would have no embarassment in doing so, but I feel treacherous towards his wife - even though I didn't know her very well - it's kind of a sisterhood thing, does that make sense?
What d'you reckon?