Why does he depress me?

[rufussmum]

Is it possible to be 'made' depressed by someone else? My DH works away Monday-Friday so we only have weekends together. Even though I manage my life quite well when I am on my own, I am finding weekends increasingly dogged by a feeling that I recognise as depression.
It is almost as if there is a tangible atmosphere that descends on the house when he is there IFSWIM.
He has very little to say to me and can spend several hours in front of the TV or on a car journey without saying a word. He just says he isn't a talker.
I feel we have no communication at all and that he doesn't really hear me. He usually 'forgets' things I have told him.
I have tried to find things we can do together but he always has a reason to prevaricate and so we do very little with our weekends - apart from watch TV. Mealtimes are very stressful - silence apart from the sounds of eating.
Anyway, not sure I am being very clear here but I am aware of the difference between weekdays when I feel OK and weekends when I seem to lose all interest in life. I know DH is not a bad person and I feel so guilty about being so negative. Thanks for listening.

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Gosh I feel depressed reading this.

Ruffus, I hope you find the guts and strength to choose happiness. Don't be afraid of being alone, you are alone in this relationship now so you will be better if as you probably won't have that anxious depressed feeling anymore.

So he has form and he is coercive and bullying. He sounds great fun to be around.

I would if I were you, fill my weekends with people and things I wanted to do, hand him a paper with numbers for "girls" and say....."here I'll go out and talk to people I want to, who will listen to me, you can go and get laid with women you don't have to converse with"
See if it shocks him out of his lazy self indulgent stupor.

rufus do you think he is having an affair?

You sound so unhappy, your age is irrelevant, you're still alive.

My Dr told me depression is a sign that something in your life needs to change.

Sounds like spending weekends with a tailor's dummy. Hope you follow excellent advice upthread, some partnerships just aren't meant to last. Start by planning something nice on Thursday evenings to dispel the dread of weekends - join a choir, go to the cinema, ask a colleague or friend out for a drink. Babysit your grandchild! just don't sit home counting the hours until you hear his key in the door.

How does he behave to when others are around? He does sound as if he is being passive aggressive.

First step is to get yourself a life at the weekends, make small steps to do things that you will enjoy. Once the fog clears you will be able to feel stronger about making decisions.