Need help

[McHappyPants2012]

My husband has accused me I'd cheating, I am shocked and very upset as I would never cheat on him.

I really don't know why he has come to this conclusion.

I just do not know how to move on from this, the trust has been broken and it feels like my world is crumbling around me.

We have 2 DC one who has austism, been together for 9 years and married 17 months:)

I don't want my marriage to fail, but how can I be with someone who can not trust me :(

It'll be something random like the OP looked particularly nice one day and he saw a passer by admiring them.. .

Going to have another talk tonight once the kids are in bed, if he is feeling insucure then hopefully I can reassure him.

I have been dieting, had a hair cut and got my self some new clothes and also have my depression well under control which has boosted my self esteem and confidence, I just hope this isn't the reason why

it could well be

he sees you blossoming, he wants to stamp on it

I hope not :( I am only doing these chances to make myself happier.

He may not want to 'stamp on it' but he may feel insecure because he has got used to you pre-blossoming. Can you go out together as the glamourous couple you once were, and are now again?

it amounts to the same thing though, silver

he is trying to make her feel shit, and it's working so far

FWIW I think he's probably concerned that your change of image might be attracting attention from the opposite sex. Bear in mind that those changes are the classic indicators of a man having an affair - IME.

It has made me question our whole relationship.

We never go out, as DH does like going out so when I do go out it always on my own ( with female friends)

Perhaps I am in the wrong, I can't blame him. Our sex life has dwindled we don't spend much time together and I am taking more effect in my appearance.

If I was reading this from an outsider I would think the same.

You're not in the wrong for making an effort with your appearance at all, he should be welcoming it, surely! Perhaps he needs to know that you aren't interested in other men, but that the two of you could perhaps do with working on the intimate side of your relationship.

Things are starting to defrost in my house now :).

After a long talk DH has said every pervious GF has cheated on him and that has left him insecure.

He said he loves how confident I have become and don't dwindle on the accusation. He has apologised and I feel like a huge weight has been lifted from my mind.

I have also told him that I have been worrying over bills and Christmas presents for our DC because of money issues and that the reason I haven't felt much like sex.

I feel a lot better about the situation now.

That's good

but watch out that you don't pay for the fact he has been cheated on previously