Hi have posted 2 previous threads but unsure how to link them?!
Short version I asked my husband to leave at beginning if September after finding the strength to do so.
There is possibly history of EA or subtle controlling behaviour (I say possibly because I doubt myself at times).
He agreed after 2/3 weeks of rough times and not nice stuff from him e.g. I'm selfish, the only one not happy, it should be me that leaves but not have children with me, to find alternative accommodation. I helped as much as I could , as wanted to do this the right way and still care that he is okay. So looked at HB he may be entitled to, agreed to split CHB as eldest dd 14 wanted to spend half her time with her dad. I completed forms for council, investigated deposit bond schemes and agreed to continue to pay half of his credit card and catalogues. Sorry will get to point now. 2 weeks ago he asked me what compromises I was making and that he was not moving out but if I find somewhere local to live I could take the children. This has been easier said than done no private rented in our area.
I met with next link who are going to help me get a residency order and look in to a occupation order. I have googled occupation order and I feel it is unlikely I will be granted one.
I just don't know what else to do he won't move out, I am on a camp bed and the dc's need to have a settled happy home.
We rent our home from local authority and are joint tenants.
Please tell me things do get sorted and how you managed it. I thought we would be able to move on with our lives within a couple of months but at this rate can't see it happening even before Christmas and I am feeling so low as each day is a roller coaster not knowin if he is going to be good cop or bad cop.