I have made a solicitors appointment for divorce )-:

[amouse]

I am at the point now where I cannot go on anymore, after a crap mothers day, numerous other problems (nothing to serious) I just refuse to carry on.
I am strangely calm about it which worries me, do the tears and anger come later. At the moment I just feel numb.
dh knows nothing!

I felt numb about my whole divorce and when it was all finalised all I felt was relief. Speaks volumes about my marriage though.

Maybe the tears and anger will come later for you.
Are you sure you're doing the right thing?

Thats a big step considering your DH doesnt know. Im afraid i dont know your story (have you posted elsewhere on here?)

how to have come to this for you though.

Making the appointment doesn't mean you necessarily have to go through with the divorce though, does it? Is it just to find out your options or are you definitely going ahead?

You have my sympathy, though.

if there is nothing too serious then perhaps you need to take a deep breath and talk to dh...maybe go to relate too...

No it is just to find out my option re the house and everything.
He wont communicate with me, I have given up trying, this is my only option now

well good luck im still waiting for my divorce to complete hopefully 2 more weeks then im FREE!!!!!!!!!! just hope this is what you want but go girl if you do!!!! tc xxxx

How many children do you have? (do you have any?)

we have 3

If the problems aren't that serious in themselves, is this just your way of giving him a wake-up call, a way of saying "I've had enough!"?

Just wondered because I'm at the end of my tether with my husband and couldn't seem to get across to him how serious things were, but I had a breakthrough by insisting we go to Relate. It's really sad if you don't think that's worth trying :(.

not a wake up call, just at the end of my tether really, cant get through to him or make him see how much he is hurting me.
I just want to be on my own, I dont need the hassle anymore

You sound very down amouse? Is it just problems with your husband which is making you feel like this? Or is there more?

How old are your 3 children?

Perhaps you need some more support. Divorce is very final (I am in the middle of an awful one) It can also raise the ante and make everyone a lot more bitter. If it is the way to go though make sure you have a good lawyer and that you are prepared for some hard times ahead.