Could this be reported to police?

[MissMemoo]

If a sexual assault occurred months ago within a marriage can it still be reported to the police and if so how would one go about doing it?

Yes. I think you'd start by ringing 101. Police forces now have dedicated DV units. You could say you want to make a report to them.

Are you OK? Would it be a good idea to ring Womens Aid or Rape Crisis, just to talk and find out what your options are?

telephone 101.

You can report a sexual assault anytime.

Look at the Jimmy Saville case.

yes it can

are you ok ?

I'm good thanks. I have been talking to women's aid a bit but haven't got to this yet. I can only talk to them in short bursts.

If I talked to the police about it will they insist on pressing charges or will it still be up to me?

H isn't here anymore by the way so I am safe.

Hmm, they could insist on pressing charges but would still need you to witness. I could imagine they might want to insist if it turns out they've got numerous complaints about the same man. Should that be so, however, you'd probably want to help them. Unless you saw a doctor about injuries received during the assault, evidence would be pretty hard to raise.

Why not ask the police about that? :)

I'm scared of telling people. Its not real at the moment. In fact they may turn round and say he did nothing wrong.

Waiting for WA to call back.

I get the feeling that they won't tell you he did nothing wrong love. we are hear for you chick, whatever you need eh?

I just spoke to a lady from WA who was really lovely. She's has given me some numbers to call for support in my area. She also said what he did was definately rape :( I find it very difficult to use that word.

If I did report it and he was convicted would he be sent to prison?

I can't do that to him. And I'd be depriving my dc of their father. How would I explain that to them?

And I'd be depriving my dc of their father.

He is responsible for his own actions - being a father is his responsibility not yours. If you commit a crime, being a parent doesn't give you special status.

How would I explain that to them?

How old are they?

You say you are now "safe". You obviously weren't safe when you were with him.

Do you still have contact with him, "for the children's sake?

Must go to bed now but will be back in the morning.