I'm a single parent seeing a man who is decent, kind, clever, generous, quite attractive. He does have all the qualities I value.
It's not that my heart doesn't 'leap out of my chest' when I see him, it's more that I realise that although he's a really good guy the connection between us isn't that deep. It's warm but not deep.
It's been a year of very pleasant dates, going out for dinner, theatre occasionally, cinema, a couple of trips away. It's been nice having somebody to text. And none of it's been a chore, but it's like even though it wasn't a 100% right, to begin with the newness and me trusting him made that not matter. It was exciting just putting a foot into the dating ocean.
He has put no pressure on me to step things up a notch though. in fact he made it clear early on he doesn't see himself getting married or even living with somebody again. And that didn't bother me to begin with because I couldn't see myself wanting that with him, but I do want those things - and I wont' find them if I'm treading water in an easy going, unthreatening kind of way with him.
He has three teenagers and I have one smaller child and I haven't met his children and he hasn't met mine and that seemed fine up until a year passed and now I think, we are just slotting each other in like a trip to the gym.
So, what do I say to him that is sensitive? his xw dumped him and I feel slightly bad that the very first relationship he's had since he's getting dumped again.
If he was mean or disrespectful it would be easier.