Is it possible to make yourself fall in love again?

[DeathCab]

Basically, I have been with DP for 6 years now and we have a DD who is 18 months.

We are due to get married next year but I'm worried that I'm only marrying him for the sake of my daughter.
I do love him, but recently we are like best friends bringing up a child together.
To be honest I couldn't imagine my life without him but I don't think I'm "in love " with him anymore.

We hardly have sex anymore because I just can't face it, I don't feel attracted to him in that way anymore. I feel awful for actually saying this out loud but I don't know what to do anymore.

I so badly want to feel that love for him again.. I suppose what I'm asking is, is it possible?

Glad of the response Cabbie - It worked brilliantly along with other things too - I was the one in full control though. .

Unfairdismissal

If that sort of thing rocks both your boat that's fine.
It sounds perilously close to controlling.

"how I wanted it to be on my terms when I wanted it"

"I woke her and told her to go to spare room because..."
"she tried to come in but I wouldn't allow it..."
"puts her in her place"

doesn't sound quite so much fun there, does it?

omc It was a way of controlling and improving a previous situation that was making one party unhappy and full of resentment - it was agreed by both parties that this was how we wanted to do things to make things improve between us physically. Thanks for the dampener on a positive thread though.

Sorry if it was a dampener

I did say If that sort of thing rocks both your boat that's fine.

Onemorechap, some women enjoy that kind of relationship too, as long as it is consentual of course!

Unfair has said that its something they both enjoy.

Thanks Cabbie, I didn't go for the skull - was thinking about and looking at designs though today a bit more discrete.

Probably a good decision! :) haha.

What have you got in mind?
I'm working on a big piece at the minute.. It's going to be a while till I can think of a new one!

Morning all, had a lush day yesterday, relaxing bath, read my new exciting book, had some wine, found time for a nice walk through autumnal trees and had a lovely meal cooked for me by dh.

Am intrigued about what people thought of the reigniting the spark game me and dh play and wondered if anyone had any other suggestions on how to improve physical closeness after spark has gone?

Hoping all is ok with you today cabbie?

Is no-one around today? X

Evening unfair :)

Yeah things are better today. We've made a promise to have a date night next weekend then at least once a month after that. We need some time to be us again and not just parents!
Hopefully that will help things.

Glad to see you had a lovely day yesterday!

So when is the first date night Cabbie? What you going to do for it? You buying some sparkly new clothes for it?

Had another night of games last night with Dh, it was lovely lovely lovely - he wanted me to blindfold him . . . .