More and more people checking on their partner's Facebook usage.

[OneMoreChap]

I though this article was quite interesting.

I noticed;
The Bitdefender study found that the number of women who had husbands or boyfriends aged 25 to 34 were three times more likely as a man to track their significant others? Facebook activity. American and British women were the most active with this app as 67 percent of them installed it to track their husband or boyfriend?s account.

Women more suspicious, or men more dodgy?
I was surprised, as perhaps wrongly I thought blokes were more likely to play with techy toys on PCs.

Facebook enabled dp to reconnect with old 'friends' he then went on to cheat!

People reconnect and it's almost as if those old feelings they once had have been bought to life again and as a pp stated it makes some behave just like they were when they were teenagers.

The chat function and the fact that you can display your mobile number for all to see (unless you go through your privacy settings) make it easy to start something you possibly never meant to but then flattery, ego, the buzz of all things new take over.

We're all different granted and where one person will cross the line and go on to cheat another person will know when things have become inappropriate and to stop it in its tracks.

I for one believe without fb dp wouldn't have cheated.

And sorry OP I wouldn't have needed Bitdefender as I actually set up dp's fb in the first place so knew his password info, unfortunately I didn't have this kind of software for his mobile, that's where the cheating continued!

People cheated before Facebook. Shocking but true

STBXH was flirting with OW on Facebook chat before he left me. He's not the flirty sort but behind the anonymity of a screen he was brave enough to say all sorts and follow it up with texts and email.

Of course Facebook can't be blamed for cheating but I think the point is how many people get caught out now because of it.

I think FB gives more opportunities for cheating and the weak selfish bastards take that opportunity

That sounds such a miserable existence! I'm seeing somebody and he's not my friend on fb. I have about 300 people on my fb and he only hsa about 30 so even though he'll sleep with me (that's good of him) he won't be my friend on fb! ;-)

Surely if Facebook presents opportunities to cheat and you want a faithful partner then it just does you a favour by providing weak, fickle or disrespectful ones with earlier or a greater number of opportunities to show their true colours?

Sorts out the wheat from the chaff?

I can tell the wheat from the chaff a bit more easily now. No offence to cheaters and time wasters and liars is intended here ;-)

I think I know enough now to know that if I'm actually feeling worried about what the other person is doing when I'm not there to see it, then the relationship isn't right and I'd leave it. I'm 42 though. If they'd had fb when I was 21 I would have driven myself mad!

I have access to partners facebook, phones, emails and everything. I in fact use them more than him to track parcels ordered in his name, to play facebook games when mine runs out of credits

One thing I dont do though is 'snoop'

If he is going to cheat or speak to someone else, he's going to do it whether I keep a beady eye or not. I have no reason to sneakily look, but I openly use everything - as he does with me.

It's easy enough for someone to set up a secret F/book profile and email account. Not to mention a pay as you go mobile. There's really no point in snooping imo. If someone really wants to cheat they'll find a way to do it.

I also think that 'gut feelings' can quite easily be wrong, especially if you have trust issues and are the paranoid type. Signs of cheating can also be perfectly innocent.

If you're always worrying that your DP or DH is cheating, your relationship's probably in trouble anyway, regardless of whether anyone is being unfaithful or not.

My DH and I are not on each other's FB. We have a few mutual friends but mainly each have friends. I never look at his FB profile to see who's there because I simply couldn't be arsed just don't see why I would. Maybe he even has the whole thing completely private, I have no idea. If he's doing anything dodgy, he'd be doing that with or without FB.

I think it's a bit naive actually blaming FB for infidelity. Things usually play out ultimately as they were always going to anyway imo, it's just a case of the right circs presenting themselves, and the right circs usually have a habit of doing just that.

My DP and I aren't on each other's FB either. I use mine maybe once a week to chat to my dad who lives abroad. Other than that, the inane details of people's lives and their constant stealth boasting is just too much excitement for me to handle in one go, so I have to keep away.

You lot need a better quality of Facebook friends and/or some ruthless culling/better use of the friend organising functions! I keep only interesting people/groups on mine so I don't get bored by the boring shit boring people post.

I only use it to message family abroad if I can't catch them on the phone or Skype. I have no idea why I added some of the people on there.

Offred, I loved it when groups and stars were introduced. I never see anybody's damn cupcakes any more

Oh, I meant to post earlier how I sometimes get friend requests from women I've never heard of - on looking, I find they're partners of men on my friends list

I accept the request, then defriend them a week or so later. They never seem to notice.

Facebook-I can see the point of it to keep up with mates who dont live close, but from brief observation it seems to be mostly full of photos of people's fried breakfasts. Oh and peeps get sooo obsessed with the 'relationship' status bit. But whatever floats yr boat and all that...

I have a lot of very interesting groups; political, community, historical, photography etc I also have quite a few interesting people and some who've moved away, live far away, I have never met but who have requested an add because we are interested in similar things. I think you can and should make Facebook work for you. My husband doesn't like it because he's grumpy and doesn't like people but I have for it working really well for me. Some of my friendships I have really maintained using Facebook when otherwise they would have been lost to life.

That makes sense to me Offred. Maybe I have only seen the somewhat puerile side of this form of 'social networking'.

i had a friend request from a man i'd never heard of and i googled him and he works for the same company as my x. my x must think i was born yesterday. maybe they agreed to spy on each other's exes.

offred, yes, I've accepted requests like that too but I can see we have say 11 mutual friends who are also members of such and such closed group. A total randomer?! no. But even with the strangers who are interested in similar groups, i see if I like the cut of their strides on the group's own page before I accept. and like you i do a cull of people i felt unsure about every now and then!

Yes but LizLemon so many people seem to accept requests from randoms or friends of friends, people they barely know, that your ex obviously thought their little ploy would work!

I've ignored some friend requests, I've also had some ignored. I wouldn't take any of it personally. FB is great for keeping up with people you don't see often as people said above. It's a bit samey sometimes though.