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Confused - am I right, wrong or just mad?

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BluebellPolka · 21/10/2012 02:12

I met someone about 15 years ago when we were both single. I thought he was lovely but nothing happened. All this time on and I still see him regularly as we have the same social circle but we are both married to other people and I have two lovely sons. About six months ago he told me he had feelings for me. My DH and I are having problems just now and this situation is not helping. All my feelings going back 15 years have been dredged up and I can't stop thinking about this other man. We are both quite quiet and we have an awful lot in common so we get on really well. This further complicates things as I would miss him as a friend but the rational part of my mind knows that I can't be his friend as things stand. But I really don't think I can let him go at the moment. He is manipulative - I went out with my sister and he turned up telling me he was jealous I might meet someone else. So I think he has a problem not me, he's just dragging me into it. I am suffering from mild depression at the moment which he professes to understand but if he really did then surely he wouldn't treat and confuse me like this when I am emotionally vulnerable? Or am I wrong?

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Hyperballad · 22/10/2012 18:30

Well that is great news! This could be you now turning a corner :) xx

deleted203 · 22/10/2012 18:52

Well done bluebell. Sorry you had a bad day, but hopefully tomorrow will be better. Glad to hear you are feeling much more positive. Depression is a soul sucking thing, but it does get better over time. How about keeping a notebook and writing down 3 good things that have happened each day to cheer you up? It could be as simple as your child saying, 'I love you Mum' or smiling at someone in the street.

Keep clear of the other man - it would not help you, and would only make your life far more stressful and complicated to have him in it.

Best of luck! Smile

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