FIL have verbally attacked me .what to do ? ? ?

[maltesers]

Wondering what to do. Was having a few contentious words with my dp who had been in pub all afternoon infront of FIL. Apologized immediately but he just flew at me saying that if he was my dp he would bl...y leave me. He marched out and repeated it again. So i told him he was a M.C.Pig. he got in his car and then jumped out came back up to me and said i was a very selfish woman. I am and was very upset and know that i am not a selfish woman by any means. Does he not know that my dp has pushed me over 3x in the last year. This on top of the week before when my dp pushed me over during a row. Have been in pieces and our relationship was over for three days. Am holding on to it for little 5 yr old ds. Cannot face being of my own again after devorcing in 1994. Know what it was like for my two older teenagers. what shall i do ? I know FIL will never apologise.

Does it matter if he apologises? Will it make a difference. The most important thing is the relationship between you and dp. Have a good long think about what is best for you and ds. Is it better to be with him and unhappy, or without him and more secure emotionally? What is best for ds?

Wish i had had thecourage to tell dp to get lost a few years back now. Always thought that my dp parents really liked me. I get on with his mother and thought i did with his father. So it was such a bombshell when he said all this.

your dp has probably fed them all sorts of things about you and they naturally take his side. Perhaps you should tell them that your dp physically abuses you?

have told his mother exactly what he did to me. He doesnt seem to tell them much. He is not the best of communicators. Jast hope MIL tells her darling bossy husband precisly what my dp did.

know its very childish but feel like letting down all 4 tyres of his beautiful white mercedes and keying it down 4 panels. Hell hath no fury like a women scorned !

Dont worry mumsnet i am not mad just have a good sense of humour.

Your FIL sounds like an asshole. I don't have anything to do with mine anymore, have had so many rows with him. Commplete and utter dickhd

I wonder where your DP inherited his charm from??? Um, like father , like son me thinks.

my dp's mom did this a few months ago, always got on well with her but one day dp and i were having a minor arguement (one which everyone was on my side on BTW!), his mom walked in and without even finding out what the fight was about said some really bitchy vindictive things to me. luckily, like i said everyone was on my side (dp and i were fine after 10 mins like we usually are!) but it took her 3 months to apologise and my relationship with her is ruined as i feel i can't trust her anymore.

Maltesers, reading your post it's not that your FIL verbally abused you that worries me, but that your DP has physically abused you. You say you hold on to it for your ds, but would you like your ds to learn that pushing your partner around is the normal way to behave in a relationship? Have you spoken to your dp about his abusive behaviour? What does he say about it? Would he be willing to go to counselling?

I feel for you I really do, have BTDT and know how hard it is.

yes eve2005 dont think i can trust him ever again. That relationship is ruined. He is ignorant and uneducated IMHO. IT will be difficult because my 5 yr old will be taken there by my partner. Wish he never got to see his only grandson ever again.

yes eve2005 dont think i can trust him ever again. That relationship is ruined. He is ignorant and uneducated IMHO. IT will be difficult because my 5 yr old will be taken there by my partner. Wish he never got to see his only grandson ever again.