I've not been divorced and I'm not bitter, nor am I full of hate, honey, but I must confess to feeling a tad despairing at the way in which many spouses who've been fooled by their cheating other halves fool themselves.
Playing Mother Earth, the fount of all forgiveness and understanding to the child that is the wayward spouse, is all very well if both parties are on the same page, but in your case it would seem that what you believe your h has lost is not in the order of a great loss to him,
Many couples undergo traumatic experiences in the course of their marriages. Some emerge with stronger bonds, others buckle under the strain. The fact that your h elected to vote with his feet and set them in the direction of an ow suggests that your marriage was not as important to him as it was to you.
As it seems your purpose in posting today was to be told what you want to hear I suggest you give your h a date by which he must decide once and for all whether he wishes to reconcile with you, but make sure that any such date is set in stone otherwise, given your propensity to make allowance where none should be given, it's likely it will become a moveable feast as you continue to make excuses for him.
If you want to prolong your agony believe that leopards change their spots, I recommend a certain fluffy hunny bunny site where you'll be reassured that of course his love for you is eternal and undying 'cos ur soul mates innit and all you have to do is don the outfit of a Stepford wife stand by your ever open door with ever open arms and wait for him to wipe his feet on you your pristine doormat if when he returns.