Worried about DP.

[wannabedomesticgoddess]

I dont know what to do or how to help him.

We have had a really bad time this year, particularly since he lost his job in august.

I am due a baby in two weeks. We were illegally evicted from our house in august and threatened. We found this house, the LL agreed that we could move in without a deposit and then give him it when we could. We explained that we wouldnt be able to give it to him until atleast November because of the baby and benefits getting sorted etc.

He has been paid all the rent up to date as we get HB. But he has been texting all this week asking for the deposit because he "has a few weddings to go to."

DP has spent all night pacing. He is visibly stressed. Has hardly eaten. He is terrified that we will be illegally evicted again. I have tried to explain that we wont be because we arent behind in rent, and the deposit isnt for the LL to spend anyway so him asking for it is a bit off.

DP keeps asking is there no money to give him, as I look after the budgets, but there isnt. Im not prepared to leave us short and unable to feed DD in order to pay for the LL to get pissed at a wedding. He was told it would be Nov and it will.

Now DP is "going for a drive" and Im worried about him. Its just too much pressure ontop of the baby and the lack of money and the unsuccessful job hunt.

What am I meant to do? How am I meant to calm him down?

It was a semi. We werent sharing it with him. Why do you ask?

Clickd on 'post' way too soon!

Glad you're back from the hospital. Don't worry too much about your raised pulse and try not to stress over all of this. I know that's easier said than done, but your current landlord will have to stick to the terms of your agreement with him and wait until November for a deposit.

Thanks, so glad to be home and in bed. They did a trace on the baby and then did a trace on me lookong for a heart murmer but it was all ok.

We were really worried. It just seems like one thing after another.

Don't fret - it'll all work out, honey - it always does

Update.

LL came round and apologised because he phoned the HB and they told him they would pay the deposit

Then yesterday we get a phonecall from LL giving off because now they have told him they dont pay deposits.

Somehow this means we are lying to him?

Anyway, now "its not working". Tbh hes fucking right its not working. Dont know who he thinks he is ranting at us everytime he has a bad day.

We now have to go for a homeless interview. If we get a house we will have to move again. Third time since June. And Im due in 9 days.

Im so shocked and worried I cant even cry. :(